Hi i have been gambling for around 3 years on and off. I am in massive debt and have damaged relationships with my family. I am desperate to sort this addiction and have my life and loved ones back. The biggest issue is they dont trust me and the lies are what is hard to forgive. I have put stress on my family emotionally and financially. I am now struggling with depression which i belive is 100% because of the gambling i have been undertaking. Everything is riding on me making the changes. I am now blocked on all laptops and phones and want to chanel my energy into other things. I would really appreciate some advice on positive change and also some success stories where people have kicked the habit for me to aspire to. My girlfreind is giving me this one chance to prove i can do it and change. I am set up for 12 weeks of counciling and will do what ever it takes to get my life and loved ones back. I'm desperate.
hi mate
3 years ago i was in exactlly the same position as you, huge debts damaged relationships no trust and depressed... 3 years on my wife and i got married in florida mixed with a disney holiday i have now got a job i love and am well on the way to paying most of my debts off, at to top it off my family are now actually proud of me for getting to where i am now from where i was then... this is probably the best feeling of all of it.
you have your blocks in place so thats a great start. do you enjoy your work? if not i would say to get into something different as i gambled as i hated my job i was bored and wanted a quick fix, now im enjoying it and just want to work my way up the ladder :]
i also focus my energy now into saving money, this can be big savings or just saving 5 pound or so off my shopping bill
if you in yourself really want to quit then you will but you have to be truly honest with yourself, you will still get urges, i had my first urges in over a year a few weeks ago as i had time off work and wife was at work and daughter was at school so i was just bored... instead i went out for a run and felt great afterwards :]
good luck to you my friend, and i will tell you the feeling of beating this disease is a million times better than the feeling of getting a big win :]
tunnie x
Thankyou soo much for your input. This has given me confidence. I am so glad its going well for yourself. I will keep this process in my thoughts.
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