I've got to stop

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Hi
I feel so ashamed with myself.
I've been a secret gambler for 2 years now. I work really hard to earn my wages but spend them mostly on my addiction to online gambling.
Having read through a few of the notes on this forum I know I need help.
I gamble secretly on my mobile away from my husband and can spend money i know I can't afford to lose.
I'm stressed not sleeping feel really ashamed and I need to stop before I lose everything including my husband and family.
Every morning I say to myself I'm not doing this again tonight. But off I go straight back on the same site wasting my money every night. It is getting me down and I'm feeling very anxious about it.
I've tried to download K9 but it's not working. I've tried to block my PayPal but I use it to pay for my gambling so find I can't close the account because of pending funds. I just want to stop long enough to be able to block how I pay. I've maxed my credit cards on gambling.
I feel I'm in a vicious circle.
How can I start where do I start. I do want to stop
Sorry needed to get it out.

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 3:30 am
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Hi dotty, well done in recognising you have a problem and NEVER feel sorry for 'getting it out'; it's the best thing you could do. You have come to the right place for advice and support and you will find reading other gamblers diaries can help. But the most important things to do are to exclude yourself permanently from the gambling sites you use, install blocking software and get some counselling. I use Gamblock and have found it really effective - it's funny that when I toyed with the idea of stopping my destructive habit I grudged the £75 but would think nothing of tossing hundreds of pounds on online slots!

I have been a gambling addict for many years and I am on day 17 gamble free. I keep a diary on here, like many others, and feel it really helps. There are others who have been on this forum and gamble free for some time who will be able to give you advice and support to help you on your journey.

No-one says the journey is easy but the long term effects of stopping are worth the journey.

Best wishes to you on your journey xx

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 10:35 am
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Thank you Annie

I do feel ive made a small step. the first thing I did this morning was sign onto here, Normally I would sign onto a gambling site.

I only ever gamble on my mobile, not sure why that is probably because my husband does not look at it. I will look into finding a blocking program for it though.

I want to be honest and open and if I feel im going to slip i know I can come on here.

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 11:04 am
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This morning ive logged onto the site i gamble on and have asked for self exclusion 🙂 I have done it and feeling proud of myself.

Day one

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 11:50 am
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Well done dotty. This will hlep you on your road to recovery. Best wishes and enjoy day one gamble free.

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 11:57 am
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Hi,

Two thoughts.

Firstly mobiles can be difficult to block. If you have a non Internet phone then you can't gamble on it.

Secondly, I would urge you to tell your husband. Long term happiness can't possibly be based on lies, (including lies by omission). If you look at the diaries of those in sustained long term recovery, you will see that honestly prevails and the OHs know. Less success members still think that they can quietly fix it without their partners noticing that anything is wrong. They can't; they can't win because they can't stop.

You husband will know that something is wrong, even if he doesn't know what. He will have noticed the changes in your behaviour. The best you can do now is tell him and show him what you're doing to overcome the addiction.

CW

 
Posted : 8th December 2015 11:37 pm
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Thank you for your kind words CW

I am not quite ready to tell him yet.I feel He would not understand right now and I am not ready for him hating me If I can do this for a week without gambling then i will tell my daughter then with her support I will be ready to tell my husband.

 
Posted : 9th December 2015 12:10 am
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Read Kelmar's post on the subject.

 
Posted : 9th December 2015 8:25 am
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Hi dotty, how you doing? Hope all's well; it would be great to know how you're getting on. If you are struggling this is the best place to be. Wishing you well xxx

 
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