As I sit here I am at the lowest point of my life .
All thanks to gambling .
My one weakness that is slowly destroying me ,
I don't no how much more of it I can take , I have literally no money right now and I got paid a months wages 2 days ago , I am behind on my bills I have no food and I'm hungry ,
I just can't do it I just can't find a way to quit !
Every single month for the last 5 years pretty much I have gambled all my wages , I haven't bought anything for myself in so long it's insane , I've got around 10k's worth of debt .. with payday loans and in bank overdrafts and all sorts , everything's just a mess at the moment my life is a complete mess.
Every single time I get enough money in my bank for any sort of deposit on a online casino I will deposit even if I need the money for food I think of gambling first.
Online gambling is my big downfall if it was never invented I would have saved a lot of money and I mean a lot , bookies don't really appeal to me and I don't drive so neither do casinos , but online slots and roulette I'm terrible , but the funny thing is I go through the same emotions month in month out :-
stage 1 - "right I'll just deposit £20 and see where it gets me if I lose I lose "
Stage 2 - lose the £20 straight away or build it up to a high ammount then lose it anyway .
Stage 3 - deposit another £40 trying to win back my £20 then lose that aswell
Stage 4 - end up losing all my wages .
Stage 5 - I'm never gambling ever again I'm sick of it !
Stage 6 - sleep ..then start lending money from family and friends and deposit and lose that throughout the month.
Stage 7 - PAYDAY again ! right I'll just deposit £20 and see where it gets me.....
And it's the same old story month after month year after year .
Even if I have no money I sign up to casinos just for the free spins to try and make some money or just for the thrill really let's be honest ,
And if I win big like once I turned £10 into £2100 yes that's right ! And somehow I mananged to lose it all! I could blame the reverse withdrawal option which we all no is a killer but let's be honest as soon as that money hit my bank we all no where it will end up !
I'm just well and truly sick of it ,
Have I stole yet to fund my addiction i here you ask? No well not really however I have sold things that I don't own online to get money to fund my habit so I sort of have .. I hate my self for it I'm not even that type of person but gambling just does it to me , I get mad urges to play slots - I mean even now if I had just a tenner in my bank I would be playing . I've told my mum about everything because it got to a point where I had literally no money for a month and had no one else left to ask for money but her so I just told her everything .. and she was great and helped me a lot - I would just send her all my money each month and she would send abit back each week for food - but I would just gamble that and eat bread for a week , it's pathetic .. but as I moved somewhere else I had to start keeping my own money and couldn't really send it because I need to pay bills from my account so now I have all my money each month , which is so dangerous because before my direct debits can go out I've spent all my money gambling , I wish I could go back and just say to myself don't gamble it's going to destroy you ! But anyway I'm going to make a real effort from now on I already have a plan of how I can pay my bills and not access my money online to gamble with so hopefully that works - oh and when people say oh just self exclude yourself from online casinos - trust me I've done it in so many but it's so easy just to make another account on another website and there's so many casinos coming out all the time trust me that's not the way forward , gambling software costs a fortune aswell so not an option for me right now - plus when I get paid I have the biggest buzz ever to gamble im not gonna go straight to gambling software with my wages I already no that , but if anyone is reading this and it relates to you in anyway please feel free tom comment or even ask for my email and we can talk , wierdly I am a very strong headed 24 year old male who has been through a lot and handled it with ease but gambling just seem to crumble even the toughest of tough , hopefully this time next month my wages are locked away and secure and I can finally put this sh't behind me . Oh and btw I have no money right now for a whole month so my only option is to tell my mum I've started gambling again because she thinks I've stoped ages ago and hope she lends me some money - now I see why they say you lose your family gambling because they just get sick of you and it and give up on you ....I hate gambling wow ...I hate gambling .
Morning Tipsy
unfortunately I cannot offer you words of wisdom that relate to me being gamble free as it's only been a week for me therefore I do not want to be hypocritical.
What I do know is that this place is a as good as any to get the support you need, I also highly recommend the counselling that gamcare offers.
Apologies for the short post as I'm on the way to work but I just wanted to post some support and let you know that you are not alone in this and that there is hundreds of like minded people here who want to see you succeed.
It would be great if you started a recovery diary mate as I would love to follow your progress.
hi Tipsy
im joe im a CG and i absolutly relate to what your saying , its killing us , we can,t stop if ill life depended on it or a familys thsats how strong it can be , legal robbery , if someone was blavkamiling u every month or robbing u at knife point every month u wud have police involved and see a end but because its gambling no one cares
BUT WE CARE im almost ten year older than u bro and it gets no easier just think if u totally stop for next ten years how much u cud save , bookies don,t need ur cash they totally loaded anyway
please email me and we can support each other day by day joe,[email protected]
has ur mum helped with food ? i think a good idea is buy a £100 asda or tesco voucher , only use in store for food and bits can,t cash out
Download K9, its completely free and used by many on this site to block access to gambling websites.
http://www1.k9webprotection.com/
This is free blocking software. It works, i know as I've had to use it. I got my wife to create the admin password so I couldn't get around it. I can't get onto anything gambling related now if I wanted to. Install it on your computer and anything else you have, get a friend to create an admin password for it. Restart the pc and that's it. No way to gamble. You need help my friend. Don't be scared to reach out on here. Lots of people willing to help and support. Good luck 🙂
Thanks for the comments people I'll defiantly check out and install that k9 software , does any one no a way to stop gambling on your iPhone because I no what I'm like , when I had no computer I would just play on my phone .. thanks again people !
I hear you, i read and it sounded just like me. You need to bin the phone and get an old nokia with no internet, trust me and do it. You also need to give your mum your bank cards, when you get paid the bills need to be paid and what's left needs to be fed to you in cash like a child just for essentials like food and condoms. This sounds harsh but i'm 20 years older than you and it works. You're not alone, i feel your anger and pain because i've been there. The feeling will pass and i'm sure your not a bad person, it's just an illness of addiction. If you don't gamble for 2 months and you work, just you see how much cash you can save in such a short space of time, it's amazing that we just give it away to rich people we don't even know and will never meet. I wouldn't give a tramp 10 quid but i give rich people thousands, crazy.
iHonestly I can't relate to you so much about how gambling effects you as a person.. how you feel.. everything..
I also am in the same current situation as yourself with having sat on my day off to get things done at home actually gambling my entire months wage away.. just another 20 just another 20 see if I can claw back the money, then I did, I got my full wage back in the balance pot onscreen and then I look and think well I'll just spend that 30 and withdraw that amount then I lose that 30 so have another 30 and before I know it the balance is back at zero. Then I feel physically sick, fed up like I could just throw myself in bed and give up.. then the next day I wake up and feel deflated. Until the day comes when there is funds again available in my account for me to do it again. Well not this time I have downloaded software to stop me and I have self excluded my sled also from every site imaginable . This is it I am sick of going without and complains of my friends going on lovely holidays and new clothes whilst I have nothingbut a load of passwords for gambling site, I will let you know how I get on but hopefully this positive head will stay where it is... good look with your journey and hope you can kick this addiction
Tipsy and jazzy lil, how are you both today? My situation is so similar to both of you that it hurts to read your posts. I'm sat here today in a state of shock after having lost a months money again. All dd payments have bounced. I have nothing except what I withdrew in a blind panic last night knowing my dds would empty my account. This has been over 18 months now. Same cycle. Started with a free bonus email. I'm now sat in a trance getting rejected from one pay day loan company after another. I swore the new year would be an end to it. I don't know what to do???
Ps. Don't let my username fool you, I'm so far from the track I can't see it anymore!!
re the iPhone , I think the only reliable way to block gambling is to have your mobile provider (and home internet if you're using wifi too) block all adult content
iJazzy and backontrack -
Thanks for your posts in a weird way it helps to no I'm not the only one my recovery starts today officially I'm going to lend some money from a friend I already owe hundreds too .. but instead of trying to win it back I've cut up my bank card I've banned myself from every online casino I can think off and deleted any sort of auto fill bank card details from my phone and other devices - this way I can't possibly gamble online it's impossible .. it's hard to do but I need to start somewhere this month and journey is still going to be difficult but hopefully I can get through it , perhaps you guys should do the same as me put all measures infront of yourself to prevent any possible way of depositing money , but any way my email is *************
IF any of you guys want to email me then please do I think we can help each other get through this and don't be ashamed if you fail hopefully we can help each other get back up and keep going ! Good luck !
I think buying an asda voucher or 4 X weekly ones is a very good idea. Don't let your physical health be affected as well as your mental health.... and we all know how gambling like we do affects that!
As for paying your bills I set up a separate bank account. And set it that as soon as my money we
nt into my bank the money for my bills went straight in to other account to pay bills. And I can't use that account for anything else no cash card with it. Which helps pay the bills. But doesn't cure the addiction. Because I still gamble the rest off my wages but not every month.
Thanks for all the comments guys I've read them all .. I'm on day 3 now going strong although it's a lot easier not been able to gamble when you don't have any money , however I had a chance to gamble the other day I had £10 in my bank usually that would of been straight deposited onto the online casino but this time I walked through the rain "literally"to the shops and spent the money on food , then came home and cut my bankcard up . As I stand now I can't actually gamble online anymore there's no way I can do it , so I'm happy about that. I had a massive urge to gamble earlier but then realised I couldent even if I wanted to do the urge soon passed , feeling good on day 3 !
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