Need Help

Dear emma26189,

Welcome to our Gamcare Forum, and thank you for sharing with us. You are not alone in what you're going through, and hopefully in our community you can find some connection and understanding for your situation.

If you haven't done already, I would encourage you to contact our advisers either on our helpline (0808 8020 133) or through our live chat. Both are open 24/7 so you can talk any time that's convenient to you. Our advisers are friendly and non-judgmental, they can talk with you about your options for help stopping gambling.

I hear you are struggling with suicidal feelings, please know you can reach out for help with this too. I wonder if you've spoken to anyone else about this? Your GP can be a good person to start talking to for mental health support. Samaritans have a 24/7 helpline too on 116 123, so there's always someone to speak with.

Wishing you all the best,

Jamie

Forum Admin

Some say pain is just weakness leaving the body. You are experiencing pain and anxiety because your coming down from gambling. It is like a seesaw with gambling on one side pain and anxiety on the other. At this stage you need to talk to a live person. Samaritans or the gamcare helpline is a good start. There are solutions to everything, even addiction. Suicide is not a solution. Take small micro steps to make your life change. Many small steps become bigger ones with time. 

When you change the way you look at things the things you look at will change.

You absolutely deserve to feel better.you have proven that by coming on this forum. Allow yourself to do that for yourself and everyone around you.

I wish you well!

Best

C

Im the exact same i c*t stop not even for one day its awful 

Look guys . If you say that you can or you can't. You will be right in both. But you do stop everytime that cash is gone right? So get someone to hold your cash for you for a while so you can take a break. Because the dopamine seesaw ride is just going to continue to tilt in one direction or the other. Either you will be high or depressed and have anxiety. The way to slow it down is to stop for 5 weeks.That is how long you need to calm things down.

I think you will understand with time that this game is not about you winning big time it is just about keeping it going so you need to stop listening to your thoughts because your brain is lying to you right now and it has been for a quite a while.

You are here so you want advice. Train yourself to do something else. If just for 1 day this week. Decide to do something else. Then do 2 days then 3. Or do the cold turkey thing and block everything now. Give away your wallet and really take a break because the only thing that is going to make this get better is by you stopping this for a while.

We are all recovering addicts. We know your pain. Take the advice. Do it in small manageable ways or in one swoop but just do it. You will see it is the right thing to do and if you really decide to change.

You will!

I wish you well

/C

You need to keep relapsing until you finally hit rock bottom....only you will know when you wanna stop,in the meantime try taking up a new hobby and not having cash on you.

You have to want to quit , i couldn't quit earlier this year as i couldn't get stubborn to it, i hit a point where i was just so disgusted in myself, i started with day 1 and was determined to hit day 7 then i didn't want to go back to gambling. I have relapsed before but i wont this time. 

Find something that interests you to do instead, go running and get stuck in to it or go walking and clock up more steps set yourself challenges, it passes the time. I also found coming on to the fourm helps reading others posts.

Evening Emma,

At the moment you feel you can't stop but you can, trust me, I was in the exactly the same situation as you, I dream gambling, gambling on my break at work, late at night, borrowed money to feed my addiction knowing full well I couldn't pay it back. You beat this horrible little demon on your shoulder. Someone told me on here you will never be a rich gambler only a rich gambling company. Someone advised me to get a money pot and put away £1 a day and watch it grow I  have £34 in my little pot now.

You can do this, try the gambling chat room at 8pm tonight and every night, it helped me massively.

You got this, stay strong x x 

Emma you are not alone, I didn't realise how many people are in our boat and reading people's stories proves there are so many caught in this trap. 

I was caught out through my Web of lies, it ws the worst day but already I feel 100 times better. I have self excluded from sites and determined to make it work. There is light at the end of the tunnel but you have to enter it by admitting to find it. 

Good luck