Hi everyone, I have been on here before but as you can tell from this post I am still very much in the thick of it.Â
This weekend alone I have betted all my wages, manage to win them back 4 times and more and then bet it all again. I always want and need more and then end up with nothing. Now I have no money for any of my bills (which I am already behind on) and I was taking my son out tomorrow but now can’t. I know when I am playing that I should come off but I can’t, I want to try and win more. It’s a horrible addiction and I really need help.Â
I have borrowed money off my husband, my  parents and they wonder why I never have any money. I haven’t got the heart to tell them because I know how disappointed they will be. I am affecting them financially now as well I am being very selfish.Â
I’m constantly down and chasing my losses, and can’t get to grips with my bills.Â
Its so hard to see a way out at the moment, I know there is but future looks very bleak.Â
I think to myself if I stop there is no chance to win a big chunk of money to help with my bills and I don’t know how to tackle my bills as I have no money. Even when I get paid I will have nothing left as I’m that far behind on them. Such a mess I am in.Â
I know exactly how you feel, I’ve relapsed twice this week then thinking I need to win all of it back, it’s a horrible vicious circle that I can’t seem to get out of and it’s just ruining my life.
This is exactly where I am at. Everything is a mess ....yet I continue to gamble, win and lose (sometimes a few times) and can't seem to walk away with anything having spent hours gambling and wasting time and money. Then because of the previous losses I'm always in a win /lose chase cycle. I know exactly how you feel. It's so draining. I didn't listen to people when they said I needed to stop because how can i have any chance of getting money back if i stop? I was so stubborn and refused to give in.So I continued and got myself in more of a mess. The problem is with chasing is that it just leads to more misery and digging further into the hole. We can't ever win because we are compulsive. Take away something from the time, money or opportunity triangle. You only have to eliminate one thing and that forces you to stop or reduce it. I've asked my partner and family not to lend me anymore money and i've had to specifically say not to let me have my cards or be able to get them. You don't have to tell your family members the reason not to lend you money.....just say because you'll never pay it back if you keep borrowing or make up an excuse if you don't feel able to tell them, at this time. If you don't feel able to just stop just reduce it with limited funds and no access to any more as stopping completely is so difficult for some of us. I've got to gradually try and stop, abit like a diet when you cut out certain foods. I'm not allowed to have any cash on me only an agreed amount to still have a go but not be out of control. Obviously stopping altogether is better. I'm worried about relapse if I just stop totally so for me I'm going initially for damage limitation. Reducing it down and making sure that the damage done is limited with restrictions in place. Hopefully this will lead me to stop altogether, when I'm in the right place. Just remember it's all about restriction. The habit can't thrive with restrictions in place and damage is limited. Hopefully this will lead to changing habits, spending less time gambling and not allowing the addictive part of our brain to win the battle.Hope this helps and wish you all the best.
@iayzljw2t3 it’s the worst feeling. That sunken gut wrenching feeling of knowing you have done it again. It completely affects my mood for the rest of the day and I take it out on other people but they don’t know why I’m being so miserable as I haven’t  told them. It’s affecting my relationship with my family which is just so awful as I am very close with them.Â
I will literally bet my last £10 to try win money back but of course it doesn’t happen.Â
@harry32 hi Harry, thanks for your reply. That is actually a good way of looking at it, taking either the time or money or opportunity away and it will reduce it one way of another. I may try that but at this moment in time I still feel so sick with betting all my money Away I don’t want to bet anything. Having said that I have no money to bet at this moment in time maybe that’s why.Â
Just an absolute nightmare, I think of all the money I’ve betted away and what I could of done with that, the loans I’m now paying back because of my habit and what that money could have done for me and my family in other ways. It actually makes me so fuming with myself, when I am trying to get money just to put a bet on I feel like a person who is addicted to drugs, the shame I feel but yet still do it. Oh how I wish I never used that free casino bonus I had all them years ago, I have progressively got worse over time. I need to really be strong I can’t keep this vicious cycle up.Â
Im so glad I have a place to vent and to others who know exactly what I am going through.Â
thanks HarryÂ
I am in alot of financial stress the constant calls from lenders etc and there seems to be no way out but u just have to ride it out until something comes your way to clear debts or start to see the light at the end of the tunnel the stress forces you to go and burrow money again and again to try and win to pay off debts but don't make this mistake its the worst thing you can do just ride it out... I literally get My salary every month and the entire amount goes into debt sometimes i just feel hopeless but eventually things gets better
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