Hi,
Gambling has finally shown its true teeth for me. I’ve ended up losing my life, my wife.
I was given ultimatums in the past and I’ve betrayed my wife’s trust on a few occasions now. Now it’s too late to go back.
I was doing well without gambling until a deceased family member caused me to use gambling as a coping mechanism and shut myself off from my wife.Â
I think I’ve been in denial a while thinking I don’t have one. But it’s always there like a seed in the back if your mind. I need to convince my wife that it will never happen again. But, I need help doing so how do people cope when times are tough? What’s the best way to never gamble again?Â
I hate the way gambling makes me feel. Even winning you think you can win more. Losing is like a slippery slope for me trying to recoup loses. I just want to be done with the whole thing.Â
Hi, first off welldone for reaching out, thats a huge first step. Everyone's recovery is different but I will tell you what helped me. It could help you. Firstly, if you gamble online, sign up to gamstop, it stops you being able to gamble online. (If you gamble in bookies or casinos, you can block yourself from them to. Ask advisors on here as I'm not too sure how you do it). Then install gamban on your devices. That is an amazing extra block. You can also block gambling transactions with your bank. And if your serious about stopping, hand over financial control to your wife. Show her everything you've done , to show how serious you are. Shes probably hurt and in shock but if you can show her how much you've done to help yourself stop, that might help. Trust takes time, she will need time to be able to trust you again. Best of luck
Stace
As a recovering addict,I can tell you from experience,when you hurt people especially those ones who are close to you more than once,don't spend a lot of time vindicating or justifying yourself.Respect their space and give them time to process the pain.Do not rush to tell people you have quit because the truth of the matter is you have been caught and your debt position has become worse.Work on your addiction bit by bit and if you have borrowed money,pay back nomatter how long it takes.Wishing you all the best.
pretty strong advice from the two above. I would also try a physical GA meeting which might also help.
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