New on here. I have accepted I need help

Hello Louie.

Well done for taking the first step and admitting you have a problem and joining these forums.

There are many others on here much better placed than me to offer advice, but I would suggest you spend as much time as possible reading through different threads on this site. You will pick up loads of great advice and you will gain a much better understanding of the addiction that grabs hold of so many of us and perhaps most importantly you will appreciate that you are not alone, so many of us share the same problem.

Take it one day at a time. When you wake up tomorrow, just tell yourself you won't gamble for that one day. Then the same the next day etc. Days will become weeks, weeks will become months and so on.

If your problem is on line slots, get some blocking software that will prevent you accessing any gambling sites.

You may have lost £3,000 but if from today onwards you never gamble again, in a perverse sort of way, it will be the best money you have ever spent.

Good luck on your journey

46 and out

Hi,

My vice is also slots. I have several threads on this site but have just posted my newest about the devesation my most recent relapse has led to.

We can do this. As 46 says, spend some time reading on here, it really does help to reduce the isolation that this addiction makes us feel.

Good luck.

Thankyou for your kind replies and good advice . I joined last night and do feel more positive. I work from home and the temptation is always there. I open my e mails and there are companies offering me the world. I am so pleased I have joined you as I feel so isolated when gambling. I will be reading all the threads and just to feel I am not alone is a big help. I have a problem which I have got away with so far but I don't like the person I am when I am gambling. I am sick of lying to myself and my friends.

I did gamble yesterday. I am not proud of it. I got a message from ********* saying if I played £10 they would credit me £10 cash on Tuesday. Here we go again. Lost the £10 and immediately deposited another £10. I got my £10 back and withdrew £30 but it could have been a different outcome. There is no point in lying- I was gullible enough tofall for it once again. Today I have not gambled.Only one day but I feel good, especially as there have been tempting offers coming my way today.I feel good. I am working through articles on the forum. As boredom is often a trigger I thought I would copy a link to what helps me https://www.jetpunk.com/quizzes/how-many-countries-can-you-name . It is a site with purely online tests. On anything. I can now type 196 countries in 15 minutes and by doing that my mind is totally diverted. You can re take the tests. Be wared. It is addictive but in a positive way as you will broaden your knowledge on loads of subjects. It is helping me loads.

As the OH of a CG who kept right on going behind my back I can promise you that not telling your husband is a recipe for him being even angrier and more hurt when (not if) he does find out. Tell him and offer him control of your finances. Get him to set passwords for blockers, help you self exclude. Get to GA, sign up for counselling. Show him you mean it when you say you're going to give up. Making yourself accountable to someone else makes it very much harder for you to gamble in secret and limits any further damage you can do. Yes, you'll be in for some pretty bruising conversations but surely anything has to be better than living with guilt and carrying toxic secrets.