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Hello there fella,

It's a good start but you need to get some blocks on your technology and self exclusion from your local area. K9 is a free bit of software that you can use to block any gambling online or horse racing sites etc. Get your other half to create the admin password so you don't get tempted to bypass it. As she will only be the one that knows it's a big pressure off you that you'll not be harassed by gambling. Plus it'll show her you mean business and you want to be helped. Self exclusion from bookies is the next step. I am not 100% sure how that's done but I'm sure others will be along shortly to give you some tips. Get a diary going in the diary board too. Use it to dump all your thoughts out...it's a good way to get rid of stress and worry.

Hi Adam

I feel for you and share many of your issues particularly with horse racing -place a bet on almost every race in a day still really shocked when they didn't win , sticking with a particular jockey or trainer etc... none of it works and in the end I find myself 50k in debt barely able to contemplate where it all went wrong . I think we both know we have Cheltenham coming up and personally I'm gutted because I've ruined something I used to enjoy - but I know this year I've got to avoid it like the plague.

Two weeks is really good by the way and you should be proud of that like mccawpa says start a recovery diary it really helps and I for one would really like to read it.

All the best

Hi Adam, Two things i read on here most often. Counselling offered by Gamcare and other help like GA. Ring Gamcare to get support on both.

mccawpa wrote:

Hello there fella,

It's a good start but you need to get some blocks on your technology and self exclusion from your local area. K9 is a free bit of software that you can use to block any gambling online or horse racing sites etc. Get your other half to create the admin password so you don't get tempted to bypass it. As she will only be the one that knows it's a big pressure off you that you'll not be harassed by gambling. Plus it'll show her you mean business and you want to be helped. Self exclusion from bookies is the next step. I am not 100% sure how that's done but I'm sure others will be along shortly to give you some tips. Get a diary going in the diary board too. Use it to dump all your thoughts out...it's a good way to get rid of stress and worry.

Thanks for your response, I have already done the app and yes i have got my partner to do the password. Luckily i dont frequent bookies and havent ever filled out a betting slip, however i am fully aware that doesnt mean i wont ever go in one. I will look into the diary thanks.

Pwm101 wrote:

Hi Adam

I feel for you and share many of your issues particularly with horse racing -place a bet on almost every race in a day still really shocked when they didn't win , sticking with a particular jockey or trainer etc... none of it works and in the end I find myself 50k in debt barely able to contemplate where it all went wrong . I think we both know we have Cheltenham coming up and personally I'm gutted because I've ruined something I used to enjoy - but I know this year I've got to avoid it like the plague.

Two weeks is really good by the way and you should be proud of that like mccawpa says start a recovery diary it really helps and I for one would really like to read it.

All the best

Thanks and yes i am only too aware it is coming up and have been invited to it by business friends and its a sad indictment that i am forfeiting a great day out but i have no choice, certainly until i am in a better position in my mind etc. As you well know the feeling that your bet has come in is a phenomanal high but does not match the down of a loss. This is the first weekend i have my son since ive placed my last bet and i cannot wait to spend quality time with him, that is what i am trying to focus on.

triangle wrote:

Hi Adam, Two things i read on here most often. Counselling offered by Gamcare and other help like GA. Ring Gamcare to get support on both.

Thanks i will look into them

Hi Adam1985

Welcome to the forum and congratulations on admitting gambling has you beat and posting as these are the hardest steps for a gambler. Like yourself my biggest vice was Horse racing and yeah I thought I was a good punter but how wrong I was I !! We can study alll sorts of stuff mate but the bookie will always be the winner in the long run for us compulsive gamblers. Congratulations on not placing a bet in over 2 weeks and you are doing some good things already in letting people know the full story and opening up to them, let your girlfriend control your finances as this will also help you, especially if you don't want to lose her as she will only be able to take so much of the lies and deceit like when you were gambling and then she would be off and you could end up on your own, like what's happened to me and I can tell you there's not a worse feeling in the world. There's plenty of advice and help through the gamcare helpline so give them a ring if you already haven't and I would also try and get along to your local GA meeting if you could. Hope things get better for you and I will look out for future updates.

All the Best

Darren

woodley3 wrote:

Hi Adam1985

Welcome to the forum and congratulations on admitting gambling has you beat and posting as these are the hardest steps for a gambler. Like yourself my biggest vice was Horse racing and yeah I thought I was a good punter but how wrong I was I !! We can study alll sorts of stuff mate but the bookie will always be the winner in the long run for us compulsive gamblers. Congratulations on not placing a bet in over 2 weeks and you are doing some good things already in letting people know the full story and opening up to them, let your girlfriend control your finances as this will also help you, especially if you don't want to lose her as she will only be able to take so much of the lies and deceit like when you were gambling and then she would be off and you could end up on your own, like what's happened to me and I can tell you there's not a worse feeling in the world. There's plenty of advice and help through the gamcare helpline so give them a ring if you already haven't and I would also try and get along to your local GA meeting if you could. Hope things get better for you and I will look out for future updates.

All the Best

Darren

Hi Darren,

Thanks for taking the time to respond, i am trying to focus my energy on other things that took up that time. The effects of it are still ongoing and it may end up bankrupting me so for my family and my partner the journey is only just beginning. I have a weekend with my son ahead and cannot wait to spend some quality time with him, looking back at the 1000s i have wasted makes sick to think i could have treated him to weekend after weekend at centre parcs etc.