Hello everyone this is the first time i have tried to get help for my problem.
Basically im 24 yrs old,a female and have a serious problem over the past few years i have spent over 10k plus. If im being honest it could be thousands more. Im 6months pregnant with 2nd child and it needs to stop. every single penny i get i spend on bingo sites with slots and play until i have nothing left for bills or food or anything. At the moment im on a debt relief order which means all my debts have been fozen beacause i had a credit card i maxed and 3k bank charges and fees for going over my overdraft coz of gambling.
But spent over 400 this month already. Everytime i win a bit i spend it all back. I won £1000 a few months ago and spent it all wen it was in my bank then i was so desperate to get it back i got a loan from the social for 700 then blew all that aswell and now im in more debt with them. i do make sure my son is never without but im always suffering. i lie to my partner to get money to pay the bills but he knows i lost the 1k i won and he constantly tells me how silly i am his not that supportive to be honest but he does not know the full scale of my problem. i lie to family to borrow money aswell . Its so hard i really need help before the baby is born this cant go on i cant deal with it anymore. for the past 2 years i feel suicidal and cry myself to sleep. I tell myself i wont do it again until i get some money then its all gone then its a vicious cycle. I have downloaded betfilter but i no wen the 8 day trial is up i will start trying to win again as i cant afford to pay for the full version. All i think about is how much i have lost recently and the sites are always showing how much other people win its sooooo frustaring when u get loads of wilds and are one away from jackpots. Please please please can someone help. I have done self exclude and closed most of my gambling accounts but its so easy to register to others again. I just cannot go on like this anymore.
I am fully qualified in something i enjoy and want to start my own business one day but if i keep gambling i will never do anything no one will take me serious.
I barely managed to get xmas presents this year its so sad really. But i have told my self the next bit of money i get (monday) i will quickly withdraw and keep in the house so i cant gamble it so i can spend on xmas
Their was £60 in my account today dont know where from and i just gambled it away when i could have paid some of my phone bill or got myself some warm clothes which i need.
Please can anyone help me.
thank you.xxxxxxxx
Hi there, sorry to hear about your problems, but like nearly all of us you are not alone. It always feels like we are at the mercy of our gambling problems. I have a new motto for this forum and how I feel. Alone we are weak, together we are strong, united we will win. I think by challenging yourself to stop and regularly involving yourself on here, updating us of your progress and feelings is an excellent way to start. I feel by posting on here, I dont want to let down my fellow members by continuing on my downward spiral. Today is my first day gambling free, and although looking back on my losses is painful, I find that by doing that it only encourages me to try and win it back. So from now, I just look to the future moment. Every moment I don't gamble is a moment of success. One step away from my guilt and misery, one step closer to personal freedom. Today is not over and ive had the constant urge all day, but I am determined I will not go weak and I posting in response to you now to help deal with my own urges also.
Thank you for your support and advice it really is helping. I have been reading all the comments and posts from new members it gives me great hope to know im not alone and im so grateful to this site for helping me to take the first steps to get out of this terrible cycle of gambling. 🙂
I will take any advice given. thank you so much
Hi helpme 24 and welcome
If you re read your post you still arent doing all you can to stop. You are convincing yourself you cant afford to buy Betfilter after the trial period finishes but you know that when your next money comes in you will gamble again. When your next money comes in BUY Betfilter and that will go a long way to beginning to stop your problem. Wanting to stop is one thing, taking positive action to stop is another. You'll get lots of sympathy and support on here which can be good for you but YOU are the one having to take action.
Buying Betfilter might help convince your boyfriend that you are serious about wanting to give up. You complain in your post that he isnt that supportive..well why should he be if you arent prepared to take some action to stop your gambling?. Sorry to be a bit tough but you need it I think. We all have problems on here, but the ones who move forward and overcome their gambling are the ones who take action.
PLEASE really commit to spending that next bit of money that comes in on Betfilter NOT gambling. That will be a monster step forward,you'll feel a bit better in yourself and then we can go from there.
Good luck
Deeds
Thank you deeds so much for ur post. I really did need that push. its made me realise just how silly i did sound saying i cant afford the betfilter when i no full well i would have probably gambled away the money instead of getting it. I know im making excuses for myself. i feel i have no self control sometimes and talking with people like u on here does make me want to change so much and it encourages me. I will come on here everyday and get that betfilter when mine expires. I need to do this for me, my son, my partner of 8 years and my unborn daughter. So thank u for ur support.
1st day gamble free still a long way to go.xxx
Brilliant well done HM24
You can do this and don't worry about your messed up thinking before. We've all done it...said we cant afford something essential but then found 10x that amount to gamble with !!
Focus in on all the positives in your life like you're new baby coming and the fact that you are qualified in whatever field you are in. You CAN set up your own business and dont let anyone tell you otherwise but for sure if you gamble again all that ambition and energy to do anything other than gamble will be wiped out
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Stay strong
Deeds
6th day gamble free. posted on the recovery diaries section.
Im back my daughter is now 3. Ive been gambling ever since she was born. I tried so hard but kept slowly coming back online on slots. In the past year ive spent thousands of pounds. Money which i do not have I owe my family money and have taken out 3 payday loans and cannot afford to pay them back so they are chasing me. I told my partner and mum about my problem last year they flipped out saying how could i be so stupid. They paid off over £700 for me. What am I to do now they trust me and think im all better now and don't do it anymore but secretly I do.
Ive really done it now though. Ive spent all my wages, all the money for bills everything. I keep lying to everyone. I just don't know what to do or how to stop. I stopped for a few days had money in the bank was happy. Then today I got some money only a few hundred and as soon as my partner left for work its all gone. I really need help I just cant stop. Im so ashamed and cant talk to anyone.
You need help, you are destroying your life. I am in a similar situation but I don't have dependents who rely on me. You need to stop access to your cash as a first means, I don't know what that means for your situation.
You also sound like you're on a permenent tilt. There reaches a time where the thoughts of gambling certianly become less and less. Maybe then your addiction can be managed and kept at bay. I hope to reach this stage again soon.
Hi Urgh Thanks for your comments.
This is day one gambling free again. Hopefully I can come on here everyday to check and keep speaking to others as this really helps me. today im going to start again to get gambling out of my life. I feel very positive and hopeful. I haven't had the urge yet but will try even harder this time even if I get them. Ive cancelled my cards, self excluded from all the sites.
I feel like this is it I really don't want to do it anymore. Ive got to stay strong and positive for my kids and partners sake.
Will check in tomorrow. xx
Welcome back stop chasing
We're all different
Some people can stop gambling easily
For some it becomes an addiction and its not possible to just stop. I have no idea which category your in but maybe its time to find out
Why not give gamcare a ring or if not gamcare your doctor or GA?
Tri
This is my day 4 gamble free. Im trying to rebuild my life and get my finaces sorted.
Ive had urges but have not slipped back to my ways. Im actually feeling like I can do it this time.
Thanks for everyones support and advice. Its really hit home and I don't ever want to gamble again. My family is far too important to me. It makes me sick to my stomach how much money Ive wasted and I don't want to waste another penny.
Speak tomorrow. xxxx
I would suggest installing the free bet filter which will be a start.
You need to remove the devices and computers which enable you to gamble , even your phone just get a basic non internet one.
I can help you with the steps I took but you truly need to focus on stopping completely before you lose everything.
Hi John Thanks for your advice, Ive not even been tempted but will take your advice
This is my day 5 gamble free and feel 100 x better than I did before.
Day 6 gamble free.
Today will be the test for me although I have excluded from all sites. I have money in the bank and usually by tonight it will all be gone. But Im not even going to think about it. Im checking in today and thats it. My laptop is going off so theirs no temptation.
See you tomorrow all.xxx
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