Sick to the pit of my stomach its the 3rd of May i got paid on the 28th and I have done all my money already for the month! How does that make any sense whatsoever?! I work hard for a full month just to chuck that money away on a game of chance in a matter of minutes!
I managed to have a control over this horrible illness for a while but the last few months it has caught up with me again and I am probably in the worst position I have ever been in! I am sat at work wishing i was anywhere else but here right now just want this feeling of worry and anxiety to go away but all I can do is replay scenarios of how I came so close to winning and how just one more go will put it right. It all comes down to If's I had a footy accumlator set to net me £300 at the weekend which lost to a 98th Minute goal and from then I have been chasing which has led me to me potless today. To top it off I had an accumualtor last night set to come in but cashed out early would have won me £1100. I don't want to gamble anymore I wish I know why I did it and what my triggers are that make me do it and I have abosultely no idea. My mum said when she bailed me out last month this is the last time I can help you and what do I do go and mess up 10x worse! I literally have no idea what or how I am going to get myself out of this mess that I am in, I am having such horrible thoughts right now like how my family would be so much better off without me around, how much my girlfriend would be better off with somoene who could actually do things rather than having to make excuses why I constantly have no money. I have been to SOHO to the gambling clinic which really helped me but I seem to be far worse now than I ever have been. If anyone has any tips or ideas that can help they would be much apprecaited. I feel worthless and I am at rock bottom I wish I could see some way out right now but that seems a long way off.
Sean
Hi Sean, gambling is an awful addiction. I think for most of us on here, we have an awful loss - hit rock bottom and come on here to try and turn things/our lives around. There is light an the end of the tunnel, you just have a take a difficult journey to get to it. I am sure lots of people will comment on your thread to give you better advice than I. All I would like to sa is there are plenty of people like you and me, we form a relationship with gambling, we think it's our "friend' our hobby. We have "illusions" of strategys and ways to "beat the system, when in reality there are none. Sean - you are not alone, if you really w**k to kick this habit's a**e you can. You have to believe and not give in to the tempting urges that will continue to be your shadow for a while. Good luck mate. T xxx
Hi Sean, I am not the best person to give advice, but it has taken me 7 long years of being on here back and forth (because I think I can beat the system and control it). I really advise you to read the stories on here and fight and fight to stay away from the addication. I am fighting really hard at the moment and it is so tough to stop, but I have suffered losses long and hard enough. Stay on here and read, the people on here will give great advice.
Thanks guys,
I honestly am lost and have no idea which way to turn, I am scared to go to my mum as I know how disapointed and how much she worried already just not sure what my next plan of action should be tbh
Hi seany 26.
Please ring gamcare as many times as you like becuase its good to talk with a one to one voice.
There is no shame in admitting gambling got to you and now you are going to beat the addiction.
There is lots of help for you and you have an addiction where you think gambling is an income scheme and a ticket to riches. You now need to focus on exactly what its doing to you. Taking every pound you have is what its actually doing. You are ignoring the odds for various reasons and you will learn all about that
We all recommend that you have a conversation with your mum and your family. Not to borrow money but to say you have a serious addiction which kept dragging you in. Its clear that she cant keep bailing you out and she cant pay the gambling industry for what you have done. Of course she will feed you but you now have to show her that you are taking the right steps to stop gambling
You are at the stage now where you have to hand over your finances and reach out for real help. If you have any collateral... a car , hi fi etc then you need to build trust by offering that to secure food money. Basically your family need to be aware that you have a gambling problem and you need help to ensure your bills are being paid. When they understand its up there with the worst addictions Im sure they will help
Its not about treating you like a baby. A gambling addiction can and will destroy you so you have to fight it from step 1
You need to be self excluded from all these gambling places. They are not your friends and they are certainly not handing out easy money. When you are in the gutter they wont be helping you up
With this in place a chat with the doctor is a good idea and you must get all the counselling on offer
Being gamble free is a lovely feeling. I hope you will join us
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
Seany
Was that 98th min goal Barnsley by any chance ???
That goal lost me £1300!!
It was pal yeah! Absolutely fuming I was! Just makes me think is it really worth having that feeling every single weekend! The last tenner in my betting account I had I was on to win £2700 and lost by 1 goal so blocked myself! It is always the same! Need to isolate myself from sport but hard when you watch so much football!
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