Sick off it

Hi Ash and welcome to the forum :)) 

It's all about getting the mindset right buddy and deciding what means more to you , your family and future or the next bet ?.

That sound's cold right ? but ultimately that's what you risk losing if you continue down this path as it get's no better the further it goes , I always loved the horses too but it was the Fobt machines in the bookies that were my eventual downfall but even though the horses were no real issue I know I can't risk another bet as I know full well where it all end's . 

Congratulation's on nearly your first week gamble free , I know from experience it's not always easy :). 

You should have a  good look around the site as there's a wealth of information on here and lots of good advice,  if your in doubt about anything then just ask and someone will respond or contact admin if you need too :)) . 

This is all doable my friend and you can live without gambling in your life but my only advice for now is to not think too far ahead and just take it one day at a time , the thought of never gambling again can be a scary prospect but one day at a time is a smaller chunk to swallow :)) 

Wishing you well for now buddy 🙂 

Alan  

Hi Ash, 

Keep it going 1 week is great. I have done 5 days gf after aother relapse, putting my wife and boy though it again and seeing my wife so upset is hard and the guilt and shame is so hard to take but this time I have done something about it. I joined the site on Tuesday and the support is great. Take it day by day we can all do it together. 

Hi Ash get blocks in place for today mate make sure you have no cash give it the Mrs and keep busy it's a nice day plan on going out for day treat kids and take them to a park or something 

Hi

It was very important for me to put much more time and effort in to my recovery than I put in to addictions and obsessions

The addictions and obsessions were a form of escaping in my fears, the addictions and obsessions were a symptom that I was emotionally vulnerable.

When I went to the addictions and obsessions were a way of me escaping in my fears from people life and situations I could not cope with emotionally.

The addictions and obsessions were a form of self abuse, going with out my needs my wants and not having any goals in my life.

It can be argued that we feel that we are not worthy of any thing, that we cheat our self from treating our self nicely.

One of the biggest rewards of working your healthy recovery is guilt shame regret remorse ignorance ineptness are replaced with self pride, self confidence, healthy self esteem and most important pride in your healthy actions and I have been in recovery on and off, I walked in to the recovery emotionally traumatized, as a child I suffered emotional abuse, I suffered physical abuse, I suffered sexual abuse, I suffered neglect , I suffered abandonment which is emotional abuse, because of my life time of trauma and pains I had put up walls of fear to protect my hurt inner child.

Because of the large number of pains occurred in my life fears grew with in me I did not understand or even recognize.

Sadly the very same walls of fears built to protect me caused me to fear emotional intimacy, it took a long time to open up my heart and my mind to healthy interactions with like minded healthy spiritual goal setting people.

In time I would identify each fear and face it head on.

For me living in fear is unhealthy, fear was disabling me in so many ways.

A time came when I decided to become selfish, to put as much effort in to my recovery as I put in to my addictions and obsessions.

No more fear of failure, no more fear of rejection, no more person pleasing, no more cheating or hurting myself.

Please keep going to meetings, you will benefit from it in so many ways.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Hi my back I'm on day 1 again I've been bad the last couple off years I just can't stop I've lit gamban in place but I she manage to have a bet by going to bookie everyone says there only one winner and I know that but I still can't stop