What's happening people, so day one today without going into the bookies, only because I've got no money in my pocket. I'm Daniel and new to this so let me give you my story, it all started when I my mum went to the bookies one day and she asked me to come, I watched her play on the roulette on the machine (FOBTS), I decided to have a little go my self and I used £20 and I put £3 on number 7 and it come in, I didn't know how much it was worth till I saw £108 on the machine. I couldn't believe it, it seemed like it could be easy money but it couldn't be further from the truth. I get paid weekly and found myself every Friday the moment I get paid going in the bookies and it just took it, week in and week out. I went to Barcelona just after and when I came back I seemed to have laid of it, but then one day I was bored at work and just been paid £300 so I thought let's have a little go and see if we can win something and once again I lost it. The following week tho everything changed I had just been paid yet again but this time my luck was in, I managed to get it up on the roulette matching to a £1000, I remember coming home and just having it laid out on the floor after counting it and thinking of all the things I could do with it, from that moment I was yet to realise what I was about to put my self thorough and the only way to describe it is hell. After winning that money I went in the next day and lost it all every since then I've been pumping the machine every week with my wages trying to get that money back. Last week Tuesday I finally managed to get a result and I had won £1000 again however once again the next day I put it all back in. I took a payday loan out so I had some money and my intentions were to do the right thing however I used the money again to try and win the money back but I lost. My brother helped me out and with a little bit of savings and some money he had I still managed to buy a nice car but because of my debts now with the payday loan company and with my brothers debt I decided to sell it, I paid my brother back and was meant to pay the loan company back however I went in the bookies with £2000 and lost the lot the machine was going up and down I just couldn't get nothing out of it, in the end I went down to my last £100 and then just managed to get get a number on the roulette and it gave me some money so I kept going thinking I'd get my money back however in the end it took it all. I feel like I've lost everything through this place and feel as though I'm working for nothing. I need to get back on track it's going to be hard tho I have so much debt to sort out, I just don't know we're to start. My brother said I could buy he's car of him next year for £4000 but he don't realise the mess I've got myself into and all he keeps going on about is me buying this car next year. Don't know how to tell him because I've already blown my last lost of money which he knows about and the whole point of me selling my own car was to sort my debts and I couldn't even do that. I guess we all have to start somewhere tho???
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hi daniel and alaine , great advice allain and im still young and in the claws of the demon and you laid your heart oon line there , i hope its gets better alain you seem like a wise man surely ur find a nice lady lady and a feww quid to enjoy yourselves
FOTB are the devil dan , they are programmed for a hit and miss and to f*** your head up so u just make them so rich , i had a terrible summer of putting my salary in , even my rent money with a family at home and then cried on the corner of my street afraid to go ho,e nad tell them because 35 36 neighbours didnt come in i could of lost our home and food money , stress and fear i find horriblev triggers to gamble for me personsally its true u do need help and a lot of strength
take care brothers
Thanks for taking the time to reply, now the only thing I can be great full for at the moment is the fact that there are people going through worser situations that myself but as you said if I continue to act in the way that way that I am and keep gambling il end up in maybe the same situation as your or maybe worser. From now on I'm just going to try and look at the positives I mean it's pretty easy to look at worse side all the time but your kind words made me realise that my situation could be a lot worse I just hope that I can get through this now. It's only day one today and the fact I've lost over £2500 in the space of two weeks is sinking in, the worst part about it is it's only Monday and ain't even got any money to get me through this week at work.
Hi Daniel. As others have said those machines are evil. To me it's not just about the money - it's the way it messes with your head. Almost like an obsession/mental illness for me. You will find plenty of good advice on this website such as self-excluding, talking to the GamCare team, counselling, not for everyone but Gamblers Anonymous seems to help some people etc. I find taking it ONE day at a time helps as do others.If I put my head on my pillow tonight and I haven't gambled then that's a good day.With the right measures in place, a change of attitude etc you can stop. I was in to horse racing and was basically betting on nearly every race in every meeting. Im not a clock watcher but I know I am coming up to 200 days without a bet which I have achieved through the help of this forum, looking at my behaviour, listening and learning from people a lot wiser than me and taking it ONE day at a time. Good luck to you - you can get back on track.
Cheers Phil, to be honest it was becoming too much I found myself always being angry and to top it all of I was putting in my wages every Friday, I know £300 a week ain't much but to me I could of done so much more with it, for example last Wednesday I booked 2 days holiday at work so that I could go down Birmingham, I got paid on the Friday and before I even booked a ticket to get down there and see my mate I had already blown my money, in the end I had to stay in because I didn't have the money to get down there. spraggy I know how u feel mate it's horrible I covered one side of the roulette I put money on 36,13,34,17,21,19,15, I had about £3 on most of the numbers and £7 on 19 and £6 on 21 and all it kept landing on was 4 and 25 it's like don't matter what u do, if you put money on numbers it always lands on the numbers you got no money on.
Self-exclude from as many bookies as you can in your area inititally is my advice - just to start with. I have maybe 8 shops within half a mile of my house and I'm self-excluded from them all. Other issues need to be addressed but that - just in my view - is a start.
You haven't posted since Monday. Just wondered how things were going?
Bad as ever, got my wages Friday £300 and blew it once again, I know I can do it but I've got to be hard on myself and stop thinking about winning because 8/10 times you end up losing anyways. It's such a struggle especially trying to get through on nothing
In my view you have to start putting into action what some people are telling you on this forum or the cycle will continue.
Hi Daniel , My downfall was also the Fobt's in the bookie's and I lost many thousands on them over a few years , what I'm going to say you already know " You Cannot beat them " , there designed to suck as much money out of you by giving you just enough of a ride to keep you interested and coming back for more and when there done with you they'll chew up your mind and spit you back out just for good measure .
Your post above say's " Your thinking about winning " Your not mate , your thinking about all the money youv'e lost and how much that machine owes you and you want it back that bad it's just going to keep dragging you back , until that is you " LET GO" , leave your losses behind you and admit it's beaten you .
I was in your position nearly a year ago , I spent weeks and Months thinking to myself " Just one more go and I'll be ok " "I'll get it all back and walk away " but the truth is just like you I never did and went on for many more months chasing what I'd lost and getting deeper and deeper into debt until it got to a point that I started googling " Painless ways to die " .
This place stopped me from reaching the point of no return and I haven't gambled for 354 days and I have never felt happier than I do right now and all because I allowed myself to let all the past losses go , accept that I can't beat a computer that's designed not to let me win and move on with my life .
Change is never easy my friend and the chances are that you'll maybe go this week because youv'e got no money left , then Thursday you'll think " When I get paid tommorow I wont gamble " then Friday comes , you get paid and the same cycle starts again because all your thinking is " Just one more win and I'll walk away " , ask yourself this " If you gamble Friday and by some miracle you land a number with max stake on it " you get a return of around £500 ish ? , How much is that going to change your life , if you don't put most of it back again that is because you think your lucks in now ?.
That's the reality mate , we cant win because we can't stop and any money we do get back is just more gambling tokens to chase the buzz !!.
Make the right decision Buddy and leave it all behind :))
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