Worried mother

You helping him is the best thing he can have. I'm fortunate to have my wife's support and it's made a massive difference.
K9 I think works on I phone and you can set the password.
Setting personal targets is a good thing too. I've opened a savings account and am looking forward to saving £1000. My wife can decide what we do with it!
It's tough to give up, but I've taken a lot of positives from the past week and seeing a difference in myself.
Only other thing I can think of is exploring whether there are any triggers to binges. I'm a compulsive gambler myself so it was all the time for me, but maybe something in your son's life makes him unhappy from time to time? If so is there any way he can distance himself from it?

Thanks mark1900 I will talk to him later. Out of interest is it best to tread carefully or bombard him with questions?

Tough call. Everyone's different. Might be best to give him the chance to open up to you first. I was unhappy up to about 15 months ago but things have changed. Unfortunately until a week ago the gambling continued but being in a better place now I'm sure is helping me too.
If he can't open up to you maybe have him call gamcare first or arrange counselling? He might find it easier to talk to you after opening up to someone else first. I did.
Good luck

I appreciate you advice, thanks. Good luck with your fight too.

Hi Kareena

K9 does indeed work on the iphone. Just disable safari then install. Has/is your son attending GA. There he will find real people going through what he has & working together to find solutions. Im sure you have a thousand questions for him, but try to let him go @ his own pace. Questioning & encouraging him to seek help is fine, judging & blaming probabley will make him want to retreat

Hello Karena,

I am glad to hear your son is seeking help.

Like Mark mentioned in his post, tough love is usually needed, with respect to money and accountability issues.

It is usually good to also let a gambler know that there are do's and don't that will and wont happen, as well as, giving them an illusion that you are broke. Gamblers never ask a broke person for money. Take it from a gambler.

With respect to do's, Do's like you can always come here for a hot meal. You can always come here for your old clothes, etc. Do's like, you can always tell me how you are feeling.

Dont's like, don't even bother asking for money for rent, utilities, or a lawyer. You are better off pan handling. Don't even think to ask for the car, don't borrow my jelewry for cleaning, etc.

There is no instructional book for this disease. It requires a balancing act by those supporting us, and usually activities to keep our mind off of gambling and being bored, as well as depressed at the money we lost.

I can tell you are a great Mom to go to lengths to ask others for assistance. I am hoping for you and your son's success.

Regards,

AM