I just wanted to post my thoughts, after a recent relapse and bigger effort to stop gambling. 3 weeks ago, i felt lost, alone, desperate and out of control.
Now, 3 weeks on i have not had a bet but feel my mind wandering only to find that i have the occasional thought about gambling. However, i am finding other things to do with my time.
making friends and a bigger effort with those i know has given me the distraction i need.
I am writing a diary, which is another productive distraction. Plus i can go back and look over my thoughts on those high and low days. Although i have wasted years of my life gambling, probably amounting to 30,000 or 40,000 its not too late to fix things and look forwards to a brighter future, there is so much more to life.
Hi Paul
Please dont feel alone, i for one am currently 3 months plus free, but even now i have relapse thoughts and it makes me low and i feel stupid for feeling low, but thats why i come on here and read other accounts and its my therapy to empathise and it takes me into a different zone in my mind and i soon rid my bad thoughts.
Im so pleased that you are making a bigger effort with friends, i cant tell you the difference it makes re introudcing people that had become distant makes. I totaly understand where you are coming from.
Please dont concentrate on what you have lost, devide that amount by the years you have been gambling and then calculate how much you will save in the next 5 years and set yourself a goal of something to buy with it. The positives outweigh the negatives.
Good luck Paul.
Thanks for your positive reply...i am using the site as my therapy session. I am thinking more about what i have to gain now and even have a savings goal, also i am now aiming to enter a bodybuilding competition and do my personal training course, i have new goals that are positive as i am very unstructured, i need structure.
well done with your current progress, it gets easier i know as i have managed to stop fir 4 years in the past, i just allowed myself to get back into it.
Thanks for your positive reply...i am using the site as my therapy session. I am thinking more about what i have to gain now and even have a savings goal, also i am now aiming to enter a bodybuilding competition and do my personal training course, i have new goals that are positive as i am very unstructured, i need structure.
well done with your current progress, it gets easier i know as i have managed to stop fir 4 years in the past, i just allowed myself to get back into it.
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