Hi,
I haven recently relapsed and feel really alone. I do have a support network but this is a really difficult topic for me to talk about.
I have relapsed twice this year, I take full ownership of this, no one forced me to do it. However I have put things in place to protect myself, e.g. self exclusion, gamban, husband has cards etc.
My last two relapses have been this year and whilst I have been on holiday and my husband has not done anything to discourage me from gambling. He has actually gambled with me and given me access to out finances.
This has led to huge arguments as it has effected my mental health and our finances. The blame has been put on me and he just doesn't understand that he has played a part.
He used to be really strong and say no and I don't know what has happened. He was diagnosed with MS a few years ago and I think this is playing a big part. When we first met, 12 years ago, we did use to go to the casino together and then I self excluded. I think he sees it as a fun activity whilst on holiday. He doesn't gamble at home and I don't think he has a problem, I've checked bank statements etc.
How do I get through to him, I've suggested gets some support as I am aware living with an addict is difficult, but he hasn't. I can't see this marriage lasting if this doesn't change.
Any advice would be appreciated.
In my experiences gambling is really a demon you need to battle alone
You can have all the blocks and support networks in the world , if a gambler wants to gamble they will find a way to gamble
That is why you and you alone must face the demon
Ask yourself why are you gambling what do you want to achieve from it
And answer logically
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