It’s all come crashing down for me over the last week with the bookies reopening.
ive no problem putting blocks in place online, so during lockdown I’ve managed to go gamble free and my wages have always lasted well!
however this last week, being furloughed and bored at home I’ve made 2 or 3 trips to the bookies and yes you guessed it... all 3 resulted in big losses!
im guessing there are many others in the same boat?
my problem is the fobt’s, and I pray that one day they all require you to put a membership card in so that the gambling exclusions can actually stand!?
has anyone any advice for me to help stop?
I know surrendering cards is probably the best route but my job always sees me cash rich sadly.
To top it off there must be 4 or 5 local bookies and they don’t seem interested in holding up exclusions either.
I guess I’m my own worst enemy, and I’ve come here to let off steam.... I’m going to try handing over my finances before it gets messy!
wish me luck ??
i have had this same exact problem this past week... ive opened up to my partner and my mother and they have taken control of my money so that i cant go into bookies im self excluded off all the gambling sites so when the bookies reopened i went on the machines and lost alot. The best thing for me is to not have control of my money for a while. Ive set myself some goals aswell to what i want to do with my life instead of being a disappointment to my family and my daughter so maybe do that set some goals in what you would want to do with your money instead of gambling.
I've been gamble free since the 1st of this month. So I'm 24 days free. I can't say that I've fallen into the trap of going to the bookies. This is because I put barriers in place, found new interests to put my mind elsewhere and take each day as it comes. Wake up in the morning, what are you going to do today? Make use of this time you have off. Use this time to find new interests, do new things. Find this time to figure out how you can hand over finances to someone so that you are not vulnerable to doing this again. Its sad, but exclusion from physical bookies just doesn't work, they won't kick you out, they wont stop you from entering. So find a different barrier to put in place. Best of luck.
I’m reading some great advice here. I think you summed it up your self with handing over your finances. You have been doing excellent up to the bookies opening , so you can do it you have proven that. Brush your self down and keep going mate
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Same here. I am going to sign up to MOSES which self exclude you from bookies.
Although the bookies may not recognise me, I wouldnt try it through sheer embarrassment if they did - then asked me to leave.
To n22cks welll done putting a stop on your online gambling, I have had the same problem as you. I have been stuck in the same cycle for over 30 years. I blocked my online gambling on 22nd May and have not yet visited the bookies to do a bet (about 36 days gamble free). The chase is often what drags you back. Even very small bets or small amounts on FOBS soon escalate. For years I have been a payday chaser. You know with a large kitty you are likely to win and then win again, but when you win 20 quid or more then win again you just cant stop and walk away. As soon as that twenty quid win goes down to only 10 quid winnings you cant leave the bookies until your back to 20 quid up again. Then you get to that 20 quid up again(if your lucky). Then you just try. but you cant walk away, then it all goes.Just put that white flag up and dont walk in and get on with a brilliant life, no traps no lies, no gamble worries. It is hard and I wont pretend I have it sussed, it's only early days for me. Good luck everyone. In my head the bookies are still closed and will be for a long time. I enjoyed the social side of chatting with friends I have met in the bookies so I need to make it impossible to go back in there, so I am not tempted again. Lockdown meant there where lots of things were not allowed to do and i have just added gambling to that.
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