Just told my wife about my gambling issue. Also rang gamcare and been referred for counsling.
Spent 800 poinds this morning in an hour when I should of been in work.
I'm now in 2k in my overdraft.
Not a lot to some but my wife is on maternity and we have a 4 month old which makes what I have been doing a 10000 times worse.
Over the years I have wasted days and thousands in the bookies.
I hope to sort out my issues and will await to see what my wife has in store for me later.
I made the mistake of telling my father in law first which wasn't a good call I just needed to tell someone.
I can't blame anyone but myself. I withdraw the money and feed it into the terminals in the book makers.
I have made half arsed attempts before at quitting but now this is out in the open I feel more confident.
It will get worse before it gets better I think.
Not looking for any sympathy just needed to open up.
Hi Mate,
I know how hard it is, I am struggerling at the the moment. I have also lost thousands, and in an overdraft at the moment. I have nobody really to talk to about my gambling issues.
What I am trying to do at the moment is just focus on other things, anything. Any hobbies or whatever. Put more time and thinking into those things.
Hope things get better for you.
Hi Alex-AC
Thanks for your comments.
I have read on here for a couple years that telling someone helps and it really does.
If you can open up to someone who cares for you then I would do it and they may give you some help and advice.
Like you say it is a good steer to focus on other things other than standing in front of the FOBT dreaming of winning a few quid.
I feel a right numpty when I think what I have done for the last 15 years.
My wife now holds my bank card going forward and once I have my overdraft paid I will switch to a basic account where I cant press 4 buttons to increase an endless overdraft. This may work for you also. Its to easy these days to obtain credit.
Going forward I will stay more positive about general life.
At 35 I can change but if I carried on I would end up on my own with a tv for company which is not what anyone wants.
All the best to you and hope everything pans out in what you are trying to achieve.
Just to add it is early days......well day 1 and I do not have an urge to go in the bookies. That said I look forward to taking some council sessions to identify the root cause of my gambling.......this could be an option for you also.
Like the advert used to say......"it's good to talk"
Great to make the first step, I'm going through the same myself.
I'm not ashamed but haven't real stopped crying ever since, mixture of relief and guilt is suppose
I wish you all the best
Hi Pablo, I was the same last night when I told my wife. Hard going....
All the best to you and hope it works out for you.
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