hi guys, I told my partner! Well, he found out due to a letter from the bank saying our rent had not come out due to not enough money. This was on the day before xmas eve which I didn't want to happen as I wanted a nice last xmas as I was sure he was going to leave. After many tears, anger and arguing he's not leaving me, provided I do all I can to make this right. Which of course I am going to. I have relapsed many times and my partner, understandly wonders how he can believe it's different this time. I can't say it will be because he won't believe that so I will show him. I have got my credit report and score so know the crippling £23k debt I need to sort out and my appalling credit score of 17! I haven't gambled for 7 days now and feel really good. I can feel in myself that this time is different for many reasons. The main one being I can't do this anymore, I can't wake up feeling ill every day thinking what the hell I'm gonna do! Luckily I have been offered a lot of overtime at work which I am doing, I have arranged counselling sessions and have handed everything over to my partner including bank cards and receipts whenever I buy something. With a massive sigh of relief!
Well done on 7 days! It takes huge courage to admit something like gambling, as we all know no one can really understand it unless they have been a gambler themselves, I bet it is a huge weight off your shoulders, and u have definitely done the right thing by handing all the financials over to him.. he must really love and trust u to keep giving u chances, just try your absolute best to keep your promise this time, as I'm sure there's only so much he can take... keep checking in on the check in thread I know that's What helps me the most and reading other people's story's aswell, hope u have a lovely gamble free new year u deserve it! X
Well done siobhan666 as I know how hard this is. I have been a CG for about 22 years. I have been with my partner for 17 years and we have never got married. We bought our house together but everything has always been in his name due to my financial issues. I finally plucked up the courage to tell him after being threatened by my mother about 5 years ago. He bailed me out of debt but that did not solve my gambling addiction. He never believes anything I say to him as he has heard all the lies, excuses and bull that anyone can. However he does love me and has always stood by me. My father in law made a comment on xmas day about me and fella getting married and he said afterwards that we should do one day. I now feel at my best to do this, I did have counselling last year and that made me stronger mentally. I am also on a debt management plan and will be debt free in Aug 2016. About 8 years ago I was told that we couldn't afford to go abroad the following year so I stopped smoking and paid for the family holiday myself. I have never looked back and I have never picked up a cigarette since. I always got told that curiosity would get the better of you if you had that first drag........don't have that first gamble and you will be the winner, stay strong xx
That's brilliant well done. Must be amazing for you to see a light at the end of the tunnel regarding the debt. I wish you all the best xx
Thank you everyone I am feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything I need to do but I have written everything down and I am getting through the list. I don't know how I'll feel when I have free reign of the money as I'm sure every gambler is tempted after stopping but I don't want to do this to our family anymore and I want to be able to afford things like "normal" people do xxx
My feeling when I don't have money in the bank is fine because I don't think about gambling. Because the money isent there. But when it is there that's the hardest. And I can see the free money.
Iv tyred to move the money and as soon as I get some I'm back in there.. If you can work your way to having the money and not gambled for a period of time in my eyes that's takes some doing. Done all the blockages self exclude.
I wish u all the best
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