Hi all
today was the first time i gambled after a few years, im not working and i hoped to make a little money so i coupd get some food ec but it has really backfired, i was just about have enough to pay all my bills for this month 29/7/17 but then went and gambled all my money £620 now all my accounts are empdy, i am panicking so much i dont know what to do, i rent a cheap studio flat and have a dog, all my bills come out on the 29th july and i have absolutley nothing in my accounts and only get £120 and £60 every 2 weeks in benefits, my bills total £600
for years i had mental health problems that i have been able to overcome after years of treatment but now i am panicking so much, im having panick attacks consistantly and i see no way out of this problem??? Please i would really appreciate some geniune feedback on if there is abything i can do otherwise im guessing i will be homeless if i cant pay my rent and all my bills? Im currently just sat on my bed in total shock and discomfort, heart racing, palpitations, feel sick, just wish i was not alive then i wouldent have to keep going through this pain.
iv told my parents but they are just sick of hearing it as i made them really mad in the past about my gambling
you arent alone, people can help, im sure, if you are able to talk to the right people
I don't know the answers but wanted to post - maybe grab yourself a glass of water and just take a few moments to settle your mind down a bit, easier said than done I know
Hi Darren118
It sounds like you're in a really desparate situation. We're not experts on debt and finances here, so I would suggest you contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau, or a helpline such as National Debtline, Stepchange or PayPlan.
But we can help you tackle your gambling. Unless you do that, these crises will keep happening. Why not give us a call on the HelpLine on 0808 8020 133? or chat to us on the NetLine if you prefer. We might be able to refer you to local counselling, or point you towards Gamblers Anonymous groups. We can also tell you about tools like self-exclusion which can help you stay away from gambling locations.
Take care, and keep posting,
Forum Admin
Hi Darren,
Sorry to hear about your predicament. I am also in crisis myself, slightly different but similar state of on off anxiety and stress.
From what you say I personally would do the following. Cancel ALL your direct debits as soon as possible. Not only will they not get paid but the bank will charge you for the pleasure. Direct debits can be re-instated at a later. If its rent you also need to phone your landlord and explain... Prob not best to say its gambling but just say something about unforseen events etc etc. If you have always been on time with rent etc and this is the first time its happened most people are reasonable and will help you to work something out... expecially if your landlord is the council or a housing association.. I guess private landlords might be a bit more tricky.
Once you can see that your not about to be on the street then you can think about how your going to feed yourself untill you next get money. Will your parents help??... Friends? if not then its swallow pride and a local food bank. maybe go to docs or cab and they can tell you about how best to access it.
Gambling addiction is just a nightmare isn't it... thoughts are with you mate... you will find your way through... just as i will
I could have written your OP myself. I've gambled all my wages today and not paid rent or bills. I feel sick with fear and don't know how I'm going to get through the next few weeks. I also suffer mental health problems exacerbated by gambling...I've also had to confess to my partner that I've took out loans in his name to pay for my gambling addiction. You are not alone. Sorry I can't be more helpful I just wanted you to know I'm going through similar.
Thank you for the advice admin and sorry for the late response, luckily my father gave me £400 which makes me feel allfull but i was desperate, iv banned myself from more bookies as i cant keep doing this, i keep spending money i cant afford to loose, this is important money to keep me alive, the problem is i dont think i will ever learn and this is obviusly something that really concerns me and thers not much hope
Hi Darren,
There's always hope. Read some of the success stories on this forum.
It's important that you use the help that's available though, you've mention you hadn't gambled for a few years so hopefully you know the steps that got you to that stage and can repeat that.
Then hopefully you can put yourself in a postion to understand that you know when you're likely to have urges or triggers to gamble but have actions in place that don't end up with you gambling.
Good luck
Conradnose.
Thanks for the advice conradnose, i did stop gambling for a couple of years as i have other problems to deal with and i wouldent of dared gamble, but back then i dident have all exclusions in place so it was probably always going to happen at some point, so this time round im literally putting all steps in place that wasent before: all online sites self excluded, self excluded from more shops in my area and iv also changed banks so i have more rescritions on my account and im hoping to keep adding things in place so this never happens again, as i cannot cope
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