Feeling really sad tonight 🙁 If you have seen my other posts you will know I have decided to wait til after xmas to tell my partner that for the 3rd time I have relapsed. This time has meant not paying our rent last week, bills going unpaid and our savibgs have gone. Our savings were only about £300 but still it was a lot to us. I know he is goig to leave me when I tell him so am feeling sad that this is going to be a happy christmas amd he will be happy until after 🙁 I have done this myself and don't mean to be wallowing in self pity but I'm just so sad that our future plans are gone, he just doesn't know it yet.
Siobhan, why don't you pop over onto the diary section & set yourself up there...It will make it easier for people to follow your thoughts & may help someone just setting out on recovery find the right path!
You are not alone, but many of us have catastrophised things that turn out to be paper tigers! I'm not saying the chat with your husband won't be a hard one, but if you're waiting to tell him, don't build it up in your mind because you genuinely don't know how it's going to pan out! Whenever you do it though, please be ready to show him how you're going to do it differently this time & let him know there is supprt for him if he needs it! You're not wallowing in self pity, you are an addict in pain...You can't undo the relapse but you can protect yourself by slamming any open doors closed! Gambling does not solve our problems, it aggravates them!
You will figure this out - ODAAT
hi siobham
feel for you hunni , its a disease and can take you so quickly if your a proper CG which we all are here and so sad to think ur lose ur bf and then that another really hard emotional time
maybe you can talk to him , go councelling together put up really barriers u should not be online should be blocked
u can still turn this around
I thought that my husband was going to leave me but I was wrong. He was so supportive more so than the previous times) I laid it all on the tables . How much how often etc left no stone unturned and he actually cried. He was astonished at the lengths i went to to cover my secret. I was in pain and desperate for help. Since telling him we've been the happiest we've been for months because it's not there eating me up anymore. I would lay awake thinking about how I would tell him. Heart beating so loud i thought it would hear. One day I just realised that I couldn't live the life I did anymore. I wasn't happy. I was terrified of him leaving me which he said he would do last time but surprisingly understood. He took away my money and he mainly sorts that now and I agreed to go to counselling too. I did everything I could to show him I was serious about stopping and since then I have.
I definitely think it would be good for you to tell him. Good luck!
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