im still gambling when i am given cash i have no solution to this im stuck i dont want to give my money to my mum anymore its hard to to get back
Hey jas, sort of the point isn't it? The more difficult you make things the harder it is to gamble. Your mum is doing you a huge favour if she doesnt give you money back. Do you want to give up gambling? If the answer is yes knuckle down and abstain. It's abstinence that gives you time away from gambling , allows your mind to clear and start healing. I totally understand it's not easy, but as you are you will carry on gambling and life will carry on being hard. Take the plunge I did 383 days ago and wow life is so much better. You can do it !!
hi Jas121 and Welcome.
The addiction is a very powerful drug addiction but the question you need to ask yourself is what is awkward compared to blowing all your money, losing your self respect, your dignity and not being able to control your own mind?
If you set it up properly you will be allowed a sandwich/ petrol allowance to live on if you provide a general overview and some receipts to how you are living.
Its not about treating you like a baby. Are you beginning to understand this addiction? The money is no good in your pocket. You have a craving to chuck it into the wind. A deep and complex craving we know all too well
When is your rock bottom moment? Forget being the big man or pride...you need help and you need your mum. Your relationships are about the only important thing you have left as you heal. You handed your actual pride and self respect away the minute you became hooked
Tell someone close you are still gambling. the key is openness and honesty. Tell me is not a mugs game and lets talk.
Its a mugs game, a drug addiction and an illness. Its highly addictive but all the risk was with you. Its for mugs with money to chuck away...not an income scheme for the more desperate.
You have to understand the logistics of the gambling process. They dont care about you and you are playing against millions of pounds hedge funds It is an income scheme for the gambling dens because they basically have punters fighting for misery stained money while they cream a certain guaranteed percentage off the top. You were never going to stick it to the man on that basis.
Please reach out for more help. You will be confused as an addict and we understand
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
You shouldn’t be gambling in the first place if there is a genuine problem mate. If you have someone looking after 99% of your finances and they give you 1% to play with, that’s the same as giving a drug addict drugs to keep him happy. Your mum is clearly trying to help you, but I don’t think giving you a bit of money to gamble is really the solution, what happens if you have full access to your money?
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