Cheers steve70,
That's true I'm sure I will do and I'm mega confident on achieving these goals it's a massive thing for me to go a full weekend without playing on them, and having money left over from the weekend i can't remember at all the last time this happened
Day 3 no gambling and my total saved is £533 and rising, working on 200 a day loss which was pretty easy for me!
Been the gym this morning
Loving life at the moment looking forward to the weekend and another non-FOBT one!
Bring it on!!
The strangest thing about gambling, as a gambler I hate to spend my own money on things, as an example:
I have £400 in a bank account, I hate to go below that £400 mark before payday, I work out what I'll get paid and see what my account will look like.
The dilemma I want to buy something that costs £25 this would take my account down to £375,
I find it extremely difficult to part with £25 and buy what I need, but extremely easy in gambling £50 to win £25 to buy what I need and stay at £400.
99.9 times out of 100 this never works and then you chase the money to get back to £400, then the 0.1 time is does work you get greedy and continue to gamble resulting in losing anyway. Never buying what you need for £25 until the week after.
Stood here now 3 days clean from gambling and starting to think deeply about it! How can this be a logical way of living it seems clear as day the most stupidest thing anyone can do. Yet we seem to return to it all the time
DP,
Oh my...we are totally the same. Whilst I have spent thousands and thousands on my credit cards I have never missed a minimum payment on a credit card, not paid my mortgage or not had enough money for the essentials, however, I'm the same as you; I go shopping and say 'I can't afford that dress, or that sandwich, or that cup of coffee' yet I will go home and throw thousands of pounds away online gambling. Why are we programmed like this?!
3 days...well done you, I am one day behind you but hopefully we can continue this journey together.
Lou
It's madness how we think like that, and I guess if when the time comes that gambling urges are strong we can take a step back and look at it like that it will help.
We sure can! I'll help you as much as I can with support on keeping away from it all! If your ever in doubt give me a shout in here and I'll happily talk it over with you
DP
I would love to know the psychology behind it, why are some people like this and others not? How did I go from being able to go to the casino once a month or so and be able to walk if I lost, or be able to walk with a profit to be like this? It's quite interesting really.
When I think of all the times I have lost big amounts I feel sick and hopefully that will keep me going and make me stronger in not relapsing. I too am here if you need anyone to talk to, but I can't log on whilst at work.
Lou
It's a mystery!
How are you getting on then, are you feeling better about the road ahead
Day 4....
Can't even be bothered with going to a bookies to play on FOBT or going to a casino to play roulette, what a boring existence it sounds.
Much rather be living my life again!
Happy today! No gambling since Friday feel fresh, feel on top of the world, to many things to look forward to in life to throw it all away on FOBT
Hey DP,
I just posted a little one on my thread. Gamble free for over 3 days now, well over 72 hours! Feeling much more positive, set up direct debits to my credit cards today but leaving enough every month for me to have a life. A gamble free life. I'm not missing it at all at the moment, that is the truth...i'm sure that will change though? Hope not.
Here is to a gamble free existance
Hello there, well done on your success so far im happy for you!
If you keep up with the positive attitude there's no reason why it will change! You've made changes and put things in place for it to go one way only the right way!
Day 5...
Great feeling coming up to a week not gambling or being interested in gambling,
sad to say on a different note I'm leaving this site, I find too many people becoming slightly aggressive, patronising and wrong fully criticising and I don't not agree with it,
Therefore before I begin to say things I regret I'll come away from it.
I wish you all the best of luck in your recoveries
Sad to see you go as I've liked reading your positive first steps.
Ultimately, it's your journey to take but please think long and hard before throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
This addiction is always lurking in the shadows, ready to pounce.
DP I am sad to see you go as we started the journey together. Please don't worry about what some people say, there are some harsh people out there but don't let them bother you.
If you do come back I will be here for support
Lou
Thanks for the comment Lou, I've read your post on your thread and fully agree with you.
I too came on here to tell people my story and look for help as support.
I never once signed up to get lectured on how I must go about it from some people who I believe have not had parallel situation to mine, it's a joke!
We are available 24 hours a day, every day of the year. You can also contact us for free on 0808 80 20 133. If you would like to find out more about the service before you start, including information on confidentiality, please click below. Call recordings and chat transcripts are saved for 28 days for quality assurance.
