I have had a major gambling problem for 7 yrs and have kept it under wraps from friends, family, everyone. I have lied more than I would like to recall to cover my tracks . ( you have no idea how much work my car has not needed done that I've claimed I have had to pay for )
Anyways I have joined here and have abstained for 3 weeks. Last night I sat down with my husband and told him the truth. (Well to an extent..... I opted out of giving an honest calculation of total expenditure)
He had absolutely no idea that I was gambling, he did however know that I had a secret.
When I said to him " we need to talk, I have to tell you something" he immediately responded with " well I wondered when this was coming, your leaving me aren't you?"
Now that threw me sideways, because I love my hubby very much and leaving him could not be further off my radar.
My husband has known that I have been distant, secretive and dishonest over the last 7 years , he came to the conclusion that I was having an affair! I think he was relieved that gambling was the issue and not an affair .
I am so sorry to have put my family in this position and for my other half to have been living with a feeling that I was being unfaithful to him.
I didn't think I would be able to tell him, but I a relieved now it's out I the open . We can deal with it together now and I can pass my finances over to him so that I have no access to gambling money. Coming clean is a relief....... For both of us 🙂
Hi CannaeWin,
Firstly, congratulations on not gambling for 3 weeks. That is a great achievement. Keep going with this, you can do it!
Also, thank you for sharing your story here. It might encourage others to take that step, too and start being open about their problem. It's worked well for you and it's made a difference for your relationship.
I wish you all the best for your journey.
Kind wishes
Gabriele
Hi ladies, I've just joined this site today and have also just come clean to my husband about my problem. I've just closed all online accounts and am looking forward to getting my life back on track. I'm ashamed of the lies I've told to cover my tracks but hopefully I've taken all steps to stop my gambling
Thanks for response Ladies
For me I had to stop and take some control back, before I could come clean. I needed to prove to myself and my husband that I had taken steps to overcome my problem. Gamcare has been amazing, just logging in and keeping up with people has been a tremendous support. Now that I have admitted my problems to my hubby I feel that he is onside with me quitting too. The secret is out and the burden is less. Good luck with your recoveries xxx
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