21st Century - anything that doesn't go our way we look to put a label on to excuse it. Doesn't matter whether it's food, weight, gambling, kids who talk too much, kids who don't talk enough, etc.
I have a problem admitting I HAVE a problem with gambling. If I win I feel like the coolest man on earth and anyone who disagrees can just go and **** themselves. BUT, when I lose I feel terrible and come to forums like this to b***h and moan about it, looking for sympathy.
I've just lost more than I can afford to. I don't know why I did it. Now I feel terrible and remorseful. I promise myself I'll use the memory of this loss to stop me placing another bet... But I know I won't really.
Why?
Because I love the buzz, and because I'm a greedy s*********h who loves money and likes to feel like a winner.
But tonight I didn't win, and I feel bad about that, so can you please give me some nice platitudes to make me feel better about myself?
Fair play mate, myself and probably a few other reading your post might agree that we all like the buzz of winning and then only come on here when we lose.But when you realise that the buzz of winning is just a temporary feeling before the guaranteed feeling of self hate and desperation gambling brings you, you might understand we are all trying to help each other stop something we don't want anymore in our life's.
I agree, but no feeling lasts forever - good feeling/bad feeling/indifferent feeling, etc. That's just life! I think we gamblers are trying to hold on to the good feeling we get when we win. Nothing wrong with that. But if we want massive rushes of positive we have to take the massive crushing negatives when we inevitably lose.
If we're not prepared to deal with those massive highs and lows and just want to live a "normal" flatline of existence then we should just refrain from betting in the first place surely?
It's pretty easy to be cynical about it all. A lot of people post on here once and you never see them again. I presume they have gone back to gambling.
Ultimately you have to take responsibility for your own actions but sometimes things in life make no sense. Why do people keep gambling when it is destroying them? No idea. Why do I dream over that girl at work I have no chance with? No idea either.
This place can wear you down with the constant stream of horror stories but if helps 1 in 100 that's still good.
This site has helped me...............however unlike you i didn't even get a kick when i won like i used too.......it just become a pasttime for my boredom and when you get to that stage.........you will want to quit and happily do your upmost to stick to it.
Not that it is easy but it has to be stopped as it will ultimately ruin your life.......even if like me your life is fairly s**t anyway...it will still make it much worse........you do need to replace the high that it gives you though with something that also won't ruin you.....that part is the hardest when most hobbies or past times are time limited and gambling is 24/7 so its hard....
Best of luck anyways
Ask not why you gamble but why you feel pain
to feel alive i suppose.........its a brain condition....the brain fails to produce what is being sought anymore so the external gambling retains what the brain can't supply in full as far as risk/reward/feeling alive....hence the zone out and clear mind state when gambling....like a drug would do.......similar pattern....a block out and freedom of thought......
the pattern has to broken to abstain......and the recovery is life long.....never reaching a healed forever stage......constantly be on your guard...otherwise relapse will be on the cards.........history repeats itself....... unless you make that change....
not easy but worth it for sure.......
We are available 24 hours a day, every day of the year. You can also contact us for free on 0808 80 20 133. If you would like to find out more about the service before you start, including information on confidentiality, please click below. Call recordings and chat transcripts are saved for 28 days for quality assurance.
