It's time to stop with the lies and be real

im in the exact situation harters, although you are a few months ahead of me, my gf knows nothing about my mountain of debt, however tomorrow is the day it is all going to come out, i cannot afford to save the money she wants to put away for a mortgage next year, aswell as trying to pay my credit cards and loan, she knows something is up, and i know it will break her heart, i doubt she'll stay with me and ill lose the last 5 years of my life thanks to f*****g gambling. Atleast you have 6 months free to work at, im starting from day 1...wish me luck, i wish you and your girlfriend all the best, just think about her and how far you've come next time you have the urge to deposit.

Feel for you both lads, hope it still can work out OK.

cheers mate

Hi dontchase, thanks for message. Hopefully we can do this together. Its hard at the moment because my gf is so annoyed and I'm still not sure what she is planning to do with the relationship but I am trying to be as honest as possible now. I have given her access to my online banking and i know this will help put off any future urges I may have. I have no spare money once bills are paid and loans etc so until these are paid off, im not going anywhere but I will do it bcos I really want to prove that I am a decent person and I know that when you tell your gf you will feel a lot better that its out in the open too. Best of luck and keep in touch.

Thanks DeLorean, much appreciated.

not a problem, understandably she will be confused, angry and upset, but if there is something there worth saving im sure she will see through it and stay with you for who you really are, not just a compulsive liar who squanders all his money away, thats what i keep telling myself anyway, but we will see what happens, im looking at it as a chapter in my life that i will look back on in a few years time and think wow what an idiot i was, yet be happy and grateful for what i have, and who i am then, and whatever doors close over the next couple of days, im sure new ones will open, and if i come out of that a better person then i can live with that. Im going to get back into the gym which i usually really enjoy and put alot of commitment into when im not gambling and waking up feel tired and miserable, i recommend you should do something you enjoy, so long inexpensive, need to keep focused and keep busy.

good luck.

I am in this exact same situation..

I am probably going to lose my family and gf of 5 years.

Hi it's over.

After my gf being angry with me for at least a week and that involved constant digs etc she is now supporting me through this. Although stil annoyed and upset at the debt and lies she is helping me to get through it. I've put some hard ground in to convince her that I am sorting it all out by not gambling, showing her my bank and support on here so I am sure yours would do the same. it does feel like a huge weight is lifted off my shoulders and I can finally get on with our lives bcos it has affected her!

Be honest and show how far you will go for the relationship.

Best of luck