Hi,
I have been a gambling since my college days. I gave up when my son was born a few years back, but recently restarted after a break of 3 years. I have not entered a bookmakers since my son was born but have recently gor hooked with online gambling. I self excluded myself from at least 10 online bookmakers but have joined new bookmakers, loss and then self exclude myself from that site and then gone onto another site and do the same thing again. I have asked my manager for an advance/loan to cover my rent.
Can anyone help me in breaking the cycle.
I made the decision myself to stop today.
Let's just admit that we have been foolish. Gambling is a foolish thing, I am not a fool, so why do it.
Forget the past. We are where we are, and I will now be taking control of my destiny - join me on this journey.
Today I did not gamble. 5 words I want to be able to say every evening.
Hi Cfman, welcome to the forum 🙂
A rather simplistic view from pcj above, & yes, we do need to decide to stop but if only it were that easy!
To break the cycle you need to break your gambling (Time-Money-Location, remove 1 & you cannot gamble) triangle by using blockers (K9 is free but there is a sticky on this & the helpline can help with what is compatible for your devices), hand over your finances, downgrade your bank account, order a new card & scratch off the CVV number, speak to your internet provider, ditch the devices, get new hobbies, anything that you can think of really. This makes it harder to gamble but the reality is, the people with any really long gamble free time under their belts are the ones that have found out what triggers them & are working towards fixing what's wrong with their mind so that they don't want to gamble anymore.
Gambling promises riches, an escape from reality...It delivers bad debt & heartache. Your son deserves better than to grow up with a dad who is theowing his life away. Tell people around you you have a problem & need help, call GamCare & arrange some counselling, find your nearest GA meeting & commit to recovery 100%.
This is a progressive 'disease', let this be the last time you jeopardise your home. You can do it - ODAAT
It seems before going on line you were going bookies if we had the logic mind we wouldn't go near gambling but I don't I'm a compulsive gambler who had no control once I made a decision to go bookies or click on line I'm gone untill all the monies gone then the huge feeling if guilt shame I've done it again!! Yet doing it again as there's this fantasy that if we get that big win will be the answer to all my problems. It's not as simple or easy to say right just don't gamble! For me it was such a big part of my life (my sleep. When I ate, my relationships with everyone close, debt) yet pressing that button or clicking the mouse I felt in a protective bubble. I went to a GA meeting and I heard my story from all different walks of life but the end of their gambling and despair was always the same, all I'd say is you understand more about this addiction, I'm nearly 50 started gambling from fairly young where I believe it was manageable!!! I haven't gambled for 11 months it's the only time I've stopped this long, I try to follow suggestions and Listern I don't agree with everyone BUT there's always something that gets me through another day. Best of luck give it a go one thing you won't loose is money!!!
Good morning,
I made a decision this morning. I made a decision that I will no longer get angry, I will no longer loose at life. Its a evil destiny for anyone who places that first bet. I caught me when I was on a great wage, which to this day I have nothing to show because as we all know we get hungrier and hungrier to want more. The more we earn the more we loose. I have stripped my life back to basics. What makes me happy, what makes me sad and how do I want to feel when I wake up. We all know the answer to these. Lets be fair everyone.. Happiness and unstated simplicity in lie is the best medicine. Family friends and things that make us happy are under rated. They are the things that are the priority.
Im saying ive made a clear vision, I have forgotten about the £12k I have lost, Im 28, I have everything in front of me. We all have no matter what age. Its never to late to stop and restart. The sooner we all realise that the money we loose doesnt go tot hospitals, charity, children in need and renovating the world then the sooner we will overcome this.
Please join me all on this journey and celebrate the life we have been given..
Lets all place a bet with life. Lets not make scars and lets make memories..
x Dan x
UK cotswolds.
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