I'm on day 12 since a slip on the 19th of this month....been really hard as I lost a lot of money and I have spent most of the last 12 days obsessing about it. I've put certain things in place to help me stay away from gambling and have been struggling but doing ok.
Today a close friend of mine text me (she goes gambling occasionally if she is away for a weekend but wouldn't be a gambler as such)...anyway she text me to tell me she'd just won €900, all excited and delighted with herself. I text her back and said I was happy for her that she was so excited over her winnings but to run like the wind and not think that it will happen for her like that all the time. I didn't want to sound resentful over the money as I'm truly not, but I'm so P***ed off that she is a close friend and knows how much I am struggling but she hadn't got the consideration to think before anouncing it to me and also I feel even more s**t about myself because she said she had left straight away so's she wouldn't lose it back and I know I have been the eejit who has done exactly that...lost it back.
Am I being selfish thinking the way I am? Like truly I'm delighted for her but just wish she would have kept it to herself.....
I have the biggest urge now to run to the casino that I would play in...somehow feeling luck is in the air ffs....
Hello Alanah,
Welcome to the Forum. I can understand your frustration with your friend’s behaviour. Perhaps your friend has also a gambling addiction and it is not recognised or if she just plays for fun and she is able to control it she is not able to understand where you are coming from. It might be an idea to explain to her that you are recovering from gambling and any references to it are not helpful to you, instead of relying on her to be considerate as she may not realise the effect that can have on you. I hope you didn’t give in to the urge in the end and writing in this Forum was helpful to you at the time.
It is not clear what support you are having, but if you didn’t know, GamCare offers free counselling sessions that could help you with your recovery. You're welcome to contact the GamCare advisers on 0808 8020 133, which is free on the main mobile networks. We're open from 8am until midnight, 7 days a week. Alternatively, you can use the Netline to connect to an advisor:
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Please, continue to use this Forum and engage with other members. It is a very supportive and safe space.
Best of luck,
Ana
luck is in the air for you, if you stay away and look at the money you have in your hand...now your the winner for not losing it.
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