Just joined here I so need help to stop gambling

Hi Lovebadger - Welcome to the site. Here you'll find loads of support and encouragement and will soon realise that you are not alone with your thoughts and feelings. If you have not already done so, self-exclude from every gambling site/location you use, and if it's an online problem, install blocking software such as K9. This will put a barrier between you and gambling so that you can concentrate on your journey to a new gamble-free life.

I would also urge you to log on to this site every day if possible - it's a life-saver!

Best wishes.

Joanna

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This is day 2 and I can't stop thinking about yesterday

And also want to tell my wife but just can't bring myself to do it the moment. She keeps asking what wrong as I am so quiet. It's days feeling like this I know it's got to stop.

Hi

I think you really need to sit and talk to your wife I am sure she will help you through this! I got caught out AGAIN last week from my girlfriend and after sitting down and talking you will feel much better, it may take a while but in time she will understand, people see gambling addiction as stupidity but we all know the reality and how horrible it really is but trust me you will feel big relive when you sit and talk about it!! All the best

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I know I need to tell my wife but at the moment

I feel so ashamed after blowing another 600

Again yesterday. Which like I say could of gone on my wife and kids .. When I get the urge to gamble I don't think about them or any thing I seem to go into a zone

Most of my gambling is online I never go into bookies

So am thinking to try and help myself when I get the urge to gamble I will go out and get 300 out of an ATM

And give it to my wife to put away

Do u think this will help me to start stopping

Hopefully it will yes because like you I do a lot online and to me it doesn't seem like real money!! Like you I've had the ashamed feeling and I also have a young son who I feel I've let down lots of times but then the voice in the head starts overriding the guilt and the next bet becomes more important, my girlfriend has now taken over all finances and total control of the bank account which seems to be helping maybe that might work for you once you've spoken to your wife?

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Good luck with your stopping . Every day for me at the moment is so hard. I have urges that tell me I can get my loses back but in reality I know I won't . So when my next urge comes am going to go to ATM and take 300 out And give it to my wife to put away then when am man enough I will tell her my problem. While this is going on I have 3 lovely kids and wife which I know am letting down and making them miss out on things.

While my problem is coming from online gambling I need to remove my money so I can't get at it with online gambling . I even opened a new account but in the end gambling got the better of me now I use that account to . So when my next urge comes which is every day at the moment and going to go for a walk to ATM . Will see how this route goes for me cause I know I won't go into bookmakers my problem is online

The demons in my head seem to be telling me all the time. I know now that I have a big problem even everywhere I look adverts / sport at weekends as I love football / Facebook / there's a adverts all the time about betting . Then it's gets the voices in my head telling I can do it this last time but there's never a last time. Even thought about ending it all cause when am down like I am at the mo. It's this feeling that I got now that's makes me want to stop and enjoy my family.

So ending everything is not the answer as I love my wife and kids

Hi Lovebadger - as a first step, have you self-excluded from every online site you have ever used? Next, have you installed any blocking software such as K9? These two things will help enormously by putting a barrier between you and online gambling. It will be hard, but each day that goes by without gambling will increase your chances of feeling better about things. You are right - you are not going to 'end it all' - think of admitting your problem and seeking help from this site as a beginning....

Good wishes,

Joanna

Hi Joanna

I have put blockers on my laptops

But and trying to find one for my iPhone 5

If I don't find one for my iPhone I will end up

Smashing it .

As it's so easy to use it.

It's making me so depressed.

Like I said before it's changing me as a person

I seem to lose my temper so quick. Shout and tell others off for no reason. And the real cause is my gambling addiction.

Looking back before all this started I was so happy everyday and loved life.

Now am quiet lose my temper

Don't get up till I can be bothered

Before I use to get up go to gym

Have holidays every year

it's gambling that's changed it All

I just can't bring myself to tell my wife

Am so ashamed I know I will break down

Hi Lovebadger - I don't possess an iPhone so can't offer any advice re. blocking sites on it. There are advantages to having a cheapo PAYG mobile!

Hope you can work it out.

Regarding telling your wife, I know many people on here have felt the better for telling family members, but if you really can't manage it, then concentrate on ridding yourself of the gambling habit. In time, and it could be quite a short time, you will start to feel better and this will show in your moods and behaviour. Chances are your wife will notice a big change for the better, and perhaps then you can think about telling her.

Best wishes,

Joanna