I think we need to be honest with ourselves and say that even if we got that "big win", we wouldn't bank it and walk away but rather we would end up just giving it all back to the bookies and probably end up losing even more chasing that feeling.
Winning was the worst thing that happened to me.
Regret, my friend, keeps you in the past, and when you are constantly looking back, you do not notice what is right in front of you. Easy words to say, harder to put in practice when trying to move on. Time is a healer but carrying on doing what we do doesn't let time work it's magic. Things can change, we can change. That big win may have been, it may have been wasted, it may be just round the corner or it might not come at all. It's the chances we take to get it that are spoiling the gift we already have which is life. Why do we gamble? To be able to live in abundance like the people we see on the TV? To be able to have the latest gadgets that get chucked out 6 times a year? Or is it because we don't want really want money and want to just give it away to people that we will never meet so they can live the lives we deserve? They know what they are doing, it's time we saw the light and stop making their lives easy while ours become more stressful.
DeLorean wrote:
I think we need to be honest with ourselves and say that even if we got that "big win", we wouldn't bank it and walk away but rather we would end up just giving it all back to the bookies and probably end up losing even more chasing that feeling.
Winning was the worst thing that happened to me.
DeLorean... I echo your comment, and say that the worst thing that ever happened to me was winning as well. I debate between that and actually walking into a casino. I guess if I got my b**t kicked the first 4-5 times, I would have never been as addicted.
if we didn't feel guilt or remorse or just plain bad about what we have spent and the time lost as well as the money then we wouldn't be normal humans (we would be psychopaths)
so in a way it's a positive sign and sometimes when i have gambled i have not cared one bit when in the zone and that is the most worrying and scary fact for me personally.
Second point.............
I currently owe £28,500 ish not including interest that will accumulate by the time i manage to pay it off in the next 3-4 years.
However when this debt i owe really gets me down i just pretend that i have brought a house in the property boom and the house prices have crashed and i am now in negative equity of £28.5k and if i keep up the house repayments....(which are actually not house re-payments but solely debt) then the market will eventually improve and my property will eventually reach breakeven..............lol..............this way i don't feel so guilty and many people who brought when houses were high cost in 2007 are in that exact situation and the poor buggers have proberly never gambled themselves ....yet this role play in my mind helps negate my looming debt and gives it a real punch line as it is true if i don't keep up the debt repayments i will lose my rented house so in a way it's not the big lie it actually is!!
Wayne (LEST-WE-FORGET) DAY 16 GAMBLE FREE
I know many people who post on here are in debt so I thought I'd post some advice. Forgive me if similar advice has been posted in the past. I know this information might seem obvious to most people but if your in a big mess sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees
I owe just above 10k in UNSECURED debit ie loans and credit cards. Personally I don't give a s**t about the banks that lent it to me. As I am on a low income now I pay them back at a £1 per month on each account. These so called financial institutions were bigger gamblers than the rest of us on here put together. They lent like there was no settling day ! The things to care about are the payments on mortgages / rent plus fuel & food etc. In other words the essentials and keeping the roof over your head. If you are over your head in it with unsecured debt do not let the threatening letters pile up and the nasty phone calls start. Contact them and get payment arrangements in place. That way you can begin to see the way to sorting other problems out. One thing I would say is do not use one of these fee charging debt management companies. If you need advice use one of the FREE charity based ones.
Hope this helps someone.
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