Please help

You're in the right place!! Good luck!! This site will help. My only advice is you have to be honest with everybody around you and also to yourself!! If not then I can assure you... The 3.5k will become a lot, lot more!!! Good luck to you!

Hello mehgame over,well done for recognising you have a problem with gambling.

I've been a compulsive gambler for over 25 years,when I first went to ga I was told if you continue gambling your gonna end up on the streets,prison or dead.
It really is a horrible addiction.
Your young you can put this blip behind you and learn the life lesson that gambling will only bring you misery.

Use the help that is out there,self exclusion,blockers for phones/laptops etc.
Get help controlling your finances,help with a repayment plan for your debts.

I can give u a certain winner - You will never ever win in the long run, it's impossible because you can never win enough.
If u were lucky enough to win big,you would only up your stakes and pro long the agony.

Use the help that is out there mate,it will be the making of you.

MehGameOver, this is a wonderful place to start your recovery & I agree with timeforchange & Trigger's comments! You are very young, don't end up like me, practically twice your age & much more money lost before realising I could do this! You have to do what it takes to break the Time-Money-Location triangle because removing just one, takes away the ability to gamble! You wil need support which you will get here & a lot of determination to walk this journey but you can do it - ODAAT

Morning pal,you've made the first step,my advice for what it's worth is self exclusion is a must,we are all here because we are addicted to gambling,and like any addiction,you need to remove every opportunity to carry on that cycle from your daily routine,I'm only on week 3 but already I'm feeling much more in control and getting very few urges to gamble,it does get easier pal and as others have said,you are relatively young and have all your life in front of you,don't be like me and look back in twenty years thinking of what might have been,come on here everyday until you feel more in control,good luck,I'll look out for your progress.

Hi guys thank you for your motivation.

I haven't been on here sInce my last post and I am saddened and ashamed to say I blew just over £100 on blackjack.

I am sick and I need help! I have just had to sell my phone to stick to my saving plan.

I feel now that I must cancel my card and let somebody close to me take care of my finances.

Have any of you found this to be helpful. I must stick to the plan.

Today I thought oh 10 pounds won't do any harm but I just kept depositing I even won the money I put in back but it just wasn't enough and I sit here weaping and cannot sleep I am miserable and I feel I will only stop being miserable when I gain control.

Thanks for the continued support. If you guys continue to comment I will ensure i am on here every day with a hopeful recovery diary.

Cheers again

Sorry to hear you gambled again. Change doesnt happen without making changes. As a compulsive gambler i always looked for easy solutions to fix my problems hence the gambling. Accept you wont find the answers to the pain in your life on a blackjack table. Attending GA has been the only thing that worked for me. Give yourself the best possible chance to change

Thanks day@atime how long have you been gamble free? Are there ways to help ease the impulse urges?!

My last bet was on the 17/4/07 so coming upto 8 years. Not having access to money is the easiest way to keep the urges @ bay. But they will never leave you until you find new coping tools on how to deal with your life. I have found those tools through the GA fellowship & the 12 step program

You need to take note of what people are saying mate, i like others would love to turn the clock back to being 19 and 3.5k in debt, im 25 now and 10k in debt and have only just really stopped gambling and sorting myself out, picture yourself in 6 years time and another 6.5k in debt? hard to swallow right, it WILL happen unless you do something about it now, by the time your in your early 20's you can look back and laugh at how stupid you were...or you can carry on. Self exclude off as many websites you can, if you have someone close to you ie partner or parent/guardian then tell them your worried your gambling to much and you want to talk about it and maybe get them to help you look after your finances. Find something you enjoy doing, for me it was going to the gym and i also got my head down at work, if theres overtime going i take it, give it a few weeks without gambling and you'll start to wonder what the hell you were thinking and start becoming much happier, DONT give them the satisfaction of another deposit. Good luck keep you head straight and all the best.

Hi All, I wish I was only 3.5k in debt, Stop now !, Ring up who ever you are playing with and close the acount, Self Exculde only lasts for a while, everytime the period ended I went back until I am £40k in debt. If you have an over draft cancel it, If you have credit cards lower the credit limit each time you make a payment even if its only £50 at a time. Limit the amount of cash available to you. Ps Good luck.

I remember being 21. I thought i knew it all. Even if the person i am now transported themselves back in time and told me what was going to happen i wouldn't have beleived them.

Youve heard some good advice on here and i'm sure you've read some of the other posts.

Give it some thought

Tri

Mehgameover,

as dontchase said you have got to take notice of what people say on the forum.

Please dont end up where i did i. In a mental home with a major breakdown through all the pressures caused by heavy gambling over many years. Job wrecked the lot. Only just hung on to my family. It caused a few people as well as me utter hell. Do something about it whilst you are still young enough to get out in one piece. You can go on to have a really enjoyable life without gambling. Don't end up like I did.

The money is one issue but I imagine most people on here would love all the wasted time they've spent gambling back. I've thrown away the best years of my life on this utterly pointless activity. Don't do the same.

How to stop the urges? You need to fight them, think of other things to do. Do whatever it takes, just resist and over time they will get easier and easier to cope with. Avoid the excuses that we all invent like "I was bored so I had to gamble etc etc". We lie to others but lie to ourselves even more.

Get out while you still can.

Meh, i think DeLorean makes an excellent point about time wasted through gambling as much as the money. I am in a bunch of debt through gambling, mainly from Blackjack after a long time spent playing poker online and in casinos. Parts of my life playing poker i dont mind, event the late nights etc. But recently i have been thinking about travelling a lot, and how i wasted my only chance of travels when i was in my 20s. I went to Australia for 2 months, and spent the majority of it playing poker in casinos. When people ask me what i did in Australia, what i saw, and whether i liked it, i can barely answer them because other than walking through a couple of cities i only have memories of sitting at the felt. What i have from gambling is no money, a fair bit of debt, and a travelling experience that was a complete waste of time; i will never again get the chance to be a 25 year old with no responsibilities on the other side of the world! Dont make my mistakes - and now that you know the financial dangers you are in a great place to avoid the pitfuls of lost time.