Hi all,
It's been a long time since I last posted anything at all on here, mainly because I had gained control over my gambling.
The reason why I'm here is because of the impact it has had up till now, and it isn't good.....
Since running myself into debt from a few years of hard gambling, I've had a hard time recovering.
At first, I managed to build up the courage to tell my family, including my wife that I had a gambling problem and that I'd run up a lot of debt. Not only were they understanding to a degree, but my mum pulled me out of it.
Since then, there have been a number of problems. I've spent money lavishly, Whilst paying off the loan my mum gave me to pay off those other gambling debts. This has just put me back into a downward spiral and I can't understand how I still haven't understood the value of money to this day, after all I've put myself through in the past.
This is probably going to be the THIRD time that I've got to own up to the problems after hiding it yet again.. That's right... The third occasion, the second occasion resulting in moving the extra debt to a DMP plan.
So this time I'm in for it big time! I have no idea if my wife is going to accept this. We love each other enormously and I dont think either one of us could imagine life without one another. To make this even more complicated, we had a beautiful baby girl in January.
Perhaps now, many of you can understand how much I hate the person I've become and how much I hurt for putting my wife through all this yet again.
I'm not looking for sympathy, honestly. But I would like to make clear to those who are on this path to devestation that it can lead to much worse unless you do something about it early on.
Rob
Hi Rob,
Welcome to the forum again, and thanks for your post.
I think it was very brave of you to return to the forum and pour your heart out. It shows how determined you are to sort out your gambling problem. It’s good that you’re aware of what is going on with and around you, and you recognize the efforts you need to invest in your recovery. It also seems like you’re appreciative of the good family support you have, especially, your wife and your mum who are eager to support you in your recovery in different kind of ways.
It’s important that you do continue with the strategies that work for you; try and find activities/ hobbies to distract you or, to replace your gambling time, and also do make efforts to spend some of your spare time with your beautiful family too.
Above all, do keep in touch with us so we can offer you more support in case you need it or, find you’re struggling to control your urges.
Let’s hope that with time, and by progressing with your recovery, you’ll find a way of coming to terms with what you and your family have gone through as a result of your gambling. It’s never easy but it’s possible to overcome your gambling problem; it’s doable, Rob. You must try and be patient with yourself, and take it step by step.
In case you’ll like a chat about your recovery, you can contact us via our free phone Helpline on: 0808 8020 133 and speak to one of our advisers. Our lines are open everyday from 8.00am to midnight.
Thanks again for your post, and pls. post as often as you can.
Best wishes,
Beatrice.
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