The next step

Well done on the 77 days?

I’m in a similar position to yourself. I’m feeling the benefits of not gambling (which involves hours alone on my iPad paying no attention to my family)  Better off financially and not waking up with that horrible feeling after a big loss the night before....but, still getting the urge. I’ve tried signing up to new online casinos but thankfully Gamstop has saved me from myself.

Good luck with your recovery and keep strong against those urges.

im very sceptical this addiction ever truly leaves you in peace 

gambling recovery is something of a lifelong commitment and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying

the most disturbing issue is that you could go 1,2,3 years gamble free then have one lapse of concentration place a bet and slowly start the descent back down the spiral without even realising it 

im a week into my latest attempt at a life free from gambling and the journey in front of me is daunting to say the least

Posted by: tryingtochange19

Hi all,

so, day 77 GF, and things are going pretty well. The positive of having money to spend on normal things, and not having the overwhelming urge to log on to whatever casino I was getting rinsed by at the time is just a godsend.

Also, having all my previous indiscretions out in the open has given my marriage a real chance of recovering, as my lovely wife has said she always felt I was hiding something just couldn’t put her finger on what, and now we all know everything there is an honesty about our relationship that has been missing in hindsight.

my question is, even though it’s getting on for 100 days without gambling, there are still odd occasions when I do get urges to do it; I haven’t acted on them but they are still there. From experience, do these wane over time or will there always be that scratching in the back of your head trying to get in?

Getting my life back is enough motivation to not succumb without question, but I am a little surprised that after this length of time I still occasionally lust after that rush and wonder what other people’s experiences are?

Thanks for reading, and good luck with your journey to health at whatever stage your at.

Stay Strong and Gambling Free

I went through very hard times with my wife, but we are coming out of this now as the trust re-builds.

So fortunate to have this wonderful person with me through this

Hi

My emotional triggers were my pains not healed, my fears not faced, my frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my loneliness due to my fears of emotional intimacy, my feelings of boredom because I felt that life was boring, that I could succeed, that I avoided facing being accountable and I avoided facing challenges in my life.

My unhealthy reaction in my anger was due to my pains not healed, my fears not faced, my frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, I use to think that being angry was healthy, not today being angry is not healthy in any way for me today.

My unhealthy reaction in my anger caused further aggression and confrontation, my anger caused people to fear me.

I want every one to be free of all fears towards me today.

Sadly due to painful child hood trauma I built walls of fear to protect my hurt inner child.

Later in my life I would identify that that high wall built on fears was going to stop me having intimate relationships with other people.

As we work on our recovery things will for sure happen that we once found were impossible are happening because our steel is being tested, our emotional vulnerability reduces, our emotional loneliness reduces and our fear of emotional intimacy reduces.

There were times in my life that I buried my pains and put on a facade to hide what was truly going on with in me.

Our subconscious reaction is a kind of honesty that makes us aware that not is well with in us.

Only by acknowledging this honest unhealthy subconscious reaction can we do some thing about it.

Please keep going to meetings, you will benefit from it in so many ways.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA

Dave of Beckenham