I have been gambling for about 8 years.It started as a bit of fun the odd 2 pound accumulator on a Saturday afternoon.but started to get more and more . Until I opened my first online account.wow how easy it was to bet,deposit, and how many live markets there were.
Then the problems kicked now. I was wasting money and still using the betting shos to bet so was wasting double the amount.
I have always had debt in my life.but now I have opened up payday loans accounts and brilliant within mins 300 into my bank the first thing I do is upload money and before I could even get to bank to make withdrawal half if it has gone.
I have closed online accounts so many times but always seem to find another or reinstate my old one. I'm so emotion less now win or lose.im just thinking about next bet.I spend more time on my phone or laptop than with my family which I fill guilty about and again gamble to forget feelings
basically I'm feeling like c**P I'm over weight have no hobbies work hard at work. always stressed over debt.my life is confusing and messy.
Now I need to cut gambling out and I'm also getting help with diet too i need help so please anyone I can chat to for support or advice I really would appreciate it
Hi mate, this is a progressive destructive illness, you will stop gambling when you reach rock bottom, whatever that level of finance is for you, some funds no funds massive debt, we all reach that level. I have I have 15% of a massive retirement pot left, not enough for a decent car, yet i could have bought a porsche five years ago. It will take everything from you, confidence social skills, ability to enjoy life, a new settee etc. You tend to replace the gambling with alcohol/food, me at the moment I need to do 75% of a bottle of wine before i can sleep. When i can i spend my non-working hours on here reading and posting, it helps, it's the only place like minded people understand you. Good luck
Many thanks for replying to post. I'm in a bit catch 22 I eat cause I gamble and gamble cause I eat.
It's my first night on this site and it is so nice to talk or express my feelings to people who understand.
Hi nobby, welcome to the forum & well done for finding the strength to tell your story 🙂
My advice is going to be very different from the above because this isn't about the money, or the food, it's about you & how you feel about yourself. You are caught up in a spiral of self loathing that addiction feeds off of with false highs but damaging lows & you need help to break the cycle.
There are Gamcare advisors available on the phone or Netline open until about midnight each day & there are chat sessions with other forum members (& a moderator) but you will have to check the times of these on the homepage. In the meantime, have a look round the site...Cardhue's diary Killing the Zombie is on the front page of the recovery diaries & would be a really good start. You may even want to start your own as that part of the site is easier to navigate than the other threads. You can write to your heart's content there, may not always get a response but your posts will be read & maybe something in there may help someone else know they are not alone.
I don't know if your family know already but I suggest that if they don't, you should confide in @ least one member as soon as you can. Addiction thrives on secrecy but a bit of support with the right tools makes the hard work of learning to manage them, that bit easier.
It looks like a mountain to climb but you're not alone here & step by step you can unravel the confusion & make yourself a better life - ODAAT
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Thank you so much for advice I do appreciate it and thanks for sharing your story. It means a lot it is nice to know I have help and support in this website. Yes I feel as one of my problems get better it have a knock on effect I will as from today take first step and close down all accounts I'm going to try and every evening just go for a little walk with no phone if anything just to start breaking old habits and that bit of exercise will help as with both just bsby steps but main focus will be killing this gambling
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