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day@atime wrote: Everyone knows that addictive behaviour is not good for you. People who suffer with addictions know this, best of all, because they have lived it. Yet addiction persists.Strange as it seems it must serve some purpose. In fact its purpose must be so great that it is even more essential than avoiding the bad consequences of addiction. It has to be more important than losing marriages, family, friends & health.It has to be more important than working in a field you love of hurting the people you love. What could be worth all that.

In term of the outside world , the world of careers, family, success there is indeed nothing worth losing all this for. The purpose of addiction must therefore lie in the inside world, where what is at stake are feelings central to my emotional survival itself. If this is the case then it is not surprising to find it overide even the most important external causes.

Addiction is a behaviour designed to reverse a profound, intolerable sense of helplessness.This helplessness is always rooted in something deeply important to the individual.

Addictions are efforts to deal with the most important emotional issues in your life, it is impossible to understand them without understanding yourself as a person.

The behaviour is not the issue. Addictive behaviour is nothing more or less than a symptom.

Addiction is an action that gives a sense of empowerment in the face of helplessness.

The solution requires self awareness, new coping skills & changing your enviroment.

A person is vulnerable to addiction when that person feels a lack of satisfaction in life, an absence of intimacy, of strong connections to other people, a lack of self confidence, compelling interests or loss of hope.

Addiction makes the painful tolerable & the ordinaryness of life worth living through.

Addiction is an emotional anaeshetic. A solution against a feeling of emptyness, boredom, selfloathing, helplessness. A stress reliever. An attempt to escape distress.

Addiction always originates in pain whether felt openly or hidden by the subconsious.

I felt intolerably alone without my addiction.

I felt incomplete & incompetent as a person. Addiction took those feelings away for a few hours.

Freedom from my addiction is not gained easily.

I must stop my magical thinking. Just wishing & wanting something to happen will not make it so.

Forget about your life situation for a while & pay attention to your life. Your life situation exists in time. Your life is now

Hopefully petty point scoring & having the last word can be confined to elsewhere.

Yet. dont us addicts like point scoring ? Is that not the parody of our existance ?

I'll leave it here by -

There's no coinicidence in life, neither is there in this forum.

Fact is i dont like bullies and will always front them, a nature of mine i'm ok with, sorry

Volcano: Resentment, green eyed envy and bitterness is a friend of denial abstinence. Abstinence is the start, not the ending.

CW,

Still like you, despite your harsh wrasp around my knuckles, and agreed!!

Together we conquer. Divided we fall

Three things cannot be long hidden, the sun, the moon and the truth.

Addicts fly with the eagles and then before we know it, we're sh.itting with the pigeons

Addicts in recovery fly with the Canadian geese, sometimes leading and sometimes falling back in formation.

Gamcare geese

'sometimes all an addict has to offer is themselves'

Odaat.

' You cant argue with stupid '

' You cant argue with facts '

A 2-sided piece of paper.

A. Combination

It's nice to feel safe. So isn't it ironic, that safety can also keep us in the crutches of addiction.

The following has had a smile on my face all week, as well as a new random friend I've met.

A patient man has the wind behind him.

Gifted from Glint

Strive for a five

day@atime Dan

Kerchingggg!

A nice thought and hoping for a lot more

An addict in action try's to push water up hill!

80% of success is about turning up.

Woody Allen