Mixer said his goodbyes a few months ago. He said he had personal issues to which the expression "no poo poirot" (or some similar) comes to mind. Who on this forum doesn't? I know I do. Mixer is a great chap and his sterling effort on the 100 day challenge helped my recovery massively. This thread has since died a death which is a massive shame. I offered to carry on Mixers legacy but no reply Cest la vie. I wish you well in your recovery Bill.
ta Markman I was reading through the thread and liked the jokes he came up with,quite a collection! good luck to you too mate.
Day 167 GF.
Very good Vamp. You are doing great. Take much pride in your great run of abstinence and cling on to it for all you're worth! Shame this thread has become somewhat of a relic!
Been a while since I have checked in still gf doing ok still going to ga 229 days gf .still sticking two fingers to gambling but never taking my eye of the ball
Dear friends,
As you know, I have been away for a while due to events that, in part, and my weakness in other parts, led me back down the slippery gambling slope. It is to my genuine regret that I left the challenge so suddenly and would like to apologise to everyone I let down: setting this up did come with an implicit responsibility and I sincerely hope I didn't negatively impact, to any degree, anyone's non-gambling journey - it is tough enough.
I return with humility and, in the eyes of some, less credibility. I fully understand that.
I am ready for another attempt to stop this destructive habit and this time intend to hang around. Like most of us, there's little choice - it's non-gambling or misery.
I would like to ask, would you like me to resurrect this challenge. My approach would be less gung-ho, perhaps a little more low key but, and this is the crux: very, very unconditionally supportive. Without question I have the fullest of support for the 2017 Challenge (and its predecessors) which have stood the test of time and is the "daddy" of the forums. This isn't an ego trip on my behalf, I can assure you.
I would be grateful for your thoughts on my continuing the challenge after this break, whether it's the right thing to do. If not, I'll leave it and continue to support the forums as we all do, helping each other via the wonderful posts we all write, the hallmark of this terrific site and the terrific people who use it. I'm not afraid to hear the truth.
Thank you,
Mixer
Mixer I think you need to be a bit kinder to yourself - you didn't just leave the forum.
You had the courtesy to say you had reasons why. I'm sure a lot of people have the utmost respect including me for your return, honesty and YOU.
Ok Mixer you asked for an opinion....personally I think you should let this challenge rest. Focus on your diary and your recovery. Be open, share...don't look to be constantly 'busy' on the forum. I get the feeling you like to help people solve their problems....maybe it is time to focus on what you need to do to have a more fulfilling life.
Thanks Rhoda, I really appreciate your feedback.
I'll leave the challenge, I think that's best. I've sadly, by my actions, let that ship sail.
But I must confess I find it hard not to be busy on the forum, as I appear to have two modes - 'nothing at all' or 'full steam ahead'. I don't seem to have a pause, maybe that's part of my intense/addictive wiring. I'll work on it and soon settle into a reasonable groove. To me, keeping busy, concentrating on non-gambling really helps, but I mustn't, and will make sure I'm not, overpowering. I won't disagree I've returned 'with a bang' but I'm very mindful I need to keep a balance.
Thanks again Rhoda.
Hi Mixer, I am realy pleased to see you back on the site and hope that your issues have been reslved. Although i have not posted for about 5 months, i pop in from time to time just to read some of the posts and keep my resolve up. I have been gamble free since i first joined back in December and i certainly found your challenge a huge encouragement to me and am certain it helped me. I do not have any thoughts to return to gambling, but on the odd occasion the thought pops in to my head, a quick visit here does the trick. Wishing you well on your continued journey.
My personal and honest opinion is I think you should ressurect the challenge, should you really want to do so!
I get the impression that you do want to do it and I feel like it would benefit people hugely to have you back in the mixer...parden the pun.
If it weren't for you, I would never have completed 34 days gamble free earlier this year. You were my rock on here buddy.
You've lost absolutely no credability on here. You're human. You relapsed. Like every other person on here at some point.
If it's what you really want and would help you focus on your own challenge, then I say "let's do this!"
I think people may be worried that you're taking on too much and that you're neglecting yourself but I think it helps you to stay focused too. Everyones a winner.
I may be competely wrong and if so, I apologise.
I for one would LOVE to see you back running this show.
Hi Moorey,
I have been given this a lot of thought and I am tempted to restart. To do so, though I've need to honestly answer some hard-hitting questions, and here's what I've come up with, along with my answers:
Mixer, you let people down last time. What if you do the same this time?
I did let some good people down. I achknowledge this and regret it. I was in a bad place and although I said I'd stop in advance (a couple of days), it was still rather sudden. My reasons were good - trust me - but I regret not returning and lapsing into bad ways. I won't do that again, if I start this up again, I'll keep it going this time. (What I perhaps regret most is the negative message it sent out, but I have learned from this. Running a challenge has implied responsibility.)
Is it an ego trip? After all, there's a very established (2017) challenge already in place.
No, it most certainly isn't. I would be mortified if anyone thought it was. All I want to do is use some of my spare non-gambling time in a fun, constructive way and maintaining an alternative challenge like this I find personally rewarding and, like so many of us, isn't it great to help others in the same boat if we can? (The 2017 Challenge is the "daddy"; I have tons of respect for its organisers.)
But what about you, Mixer. Are you neglecting your own recovery?
I think it's the opposite, this actually helps aid my recovery. I completed 90 days before, I admit, I started to feel the pressure. I actually felt (a bit) that me hitting 100 would be almost too-good-to-be-true in the eyes of some and I'll confess, I felt I was due to fail. (does that make sense?!) That probably makes no sense, but I won't do that again. This time, I will hit 100 days. And it will be true, real, serious and HONEST. And if I lapse, I will immediately come clean.
So what approach to the challenge this time?
Anyone who wants to stop can join as before. The rolllcall will be lower key, just a count of the days. The 2017 Challenge is the 'daddy', alway has been going back many years; I'm not an upstart trying to trump it. I just want to stop gambling and this is simply one of many ways that might help us.
As you can see, I'm tempted to start this up again Moorey. Just that if I do, I do it right, and stick at it this time!
Mixer wrote:
Hi Moorey,
I have been given this a lot of thought and I am tempted to restart. To do so, though I've need to honestly answer some hard-hitting questions, and here's what I've come up with, along with my answers:
Mixer, you let people down last time. What if you do the same this time?
I did let some good people down. I achknowledge this and regret it. I was in a bad place and although I said I'd stop in advance (a couple of days), it was still rather sudden. My reasons were good - trust me - but I regret not returning and lapsing into bad ways. I won't do that again, if I start this up again, I'll keep it going this time. (What I perhaps regret most is the negative message it sent out, but I have learned from this. Running a challenge has implied responsibility.)
Is it an ego trip? After all, there's a very established (2017) challenge already in place.
No, it most certainly isn't. I would be mortified if anyone thought it was. All I want to do is use some of my spare non-gambling time in a fun, constructive way and maintaining an alternative challenge like this I find personally rewarding and, like so many of us, isn't it great to help others in the same boat if we can? (The 2017 Challenge is the "daddy"; I have tons of respect for its organisers.)
But what about you, Mixer. Are you neglecting your own recovery?
I think it's the opposite, this actually helps aid my recovery. I completed 90 days before, I admit, I started to feel the pressure. I actually felt (a bit) that me hitting 100 would be almost too-good-to-be-true in the eyes of some and I'll confess, I felt I was due to fail. (does that make sense?!) That probably makes no sense, but I won't do that again. This time, I will hit 100 days. And it will be true, real, serious and HONEST. And if I lapse, I will immediately come clean.
So what approach to the challenge this time?
Anyone who wants to stop can join as before. The rolllcall will be lower key, just a count of the days. The 2017 Challenge is the 'daddy', alway has been going back many years; I'm not an upstart trying to trump it. I just want to stop gambling and this is simply one of many ways that might help us.
As you can see, I'm tempted to start this up again Moorey. Just that if I do, I do it right, and stick at it this time!
I think you perhaps put added pressure onto yourself by feeling as though you couldn't afford to lapse yourself, after all the sound advice you gave to everyone else. That's totally understandable! But as I said before, you're human, just like the rest of us. You're not invincible. I think some people on here began to think that. You were a warrior mate!
I totally agree, I think this challenge helps to aid your recovery, rather than hamper it. It gives you something to focus on and to drive you towards your goal. You've answered your own questions very well.
Do whatever you feel is best for YOU buddy! If you do start it up again, I'm right with you.
And if not, then I'll continue to fight this demon with you all the way. 100%.
Day 365 🙂
had a lovely family day in York today and was able to buy christmas presents because i had money that didnt go in the slots, feeling happy, hope youre all ok.
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