I tried to stop gambling for the 1st time around a month ago, but the resist came too much on Wednesday!
To my surprise however, i put £10 into the roulette machine and somehow got it up to £850! I was estatic! Thought that would pay off the overdraft i have, stopped for the rest of the day and thought to myself thats it. Back to no gambling.
However, i woke up today to go put the money in my bank when the thought of playing again crossed my mind 🙁 I went in! With the mindset of i'll play with the £50 and if i lose i walk away! Had that fixed in my mind but you can guess what happened from there, that £50 went, i walked away but the walk from the machine to the door felt so long and stupidly i turned back and tried to win back the £50 id lost but then the other £800 went in and i lost it in about 15 minutes! £200 more from my wages also went in.
I am so livid with myself as i considered myself an independent, strongwilled guy whose done everything for myself but for some reason i just cant stop! It hurts that i cant do this and at times i feel so weak that something like this has taken over my life! 🙁
Granted it was my first time trying to overcome this and i did last about a month which can show i can do it! Managed to pay off 2 payday loans and £250 off my overdraft, But it is so d**n difficult!
I told my girlfriend, told my family about it when i stopped but it didnt get any easier
Does anyone have any advice on what the best options are for stopping this dreadful gambling disease 🙁
I am £4k in debt, Earn £1100 a month but have 2 other long term loans which come to £300 a month and a £750 overdraft and my rent is £300
So after my rent/loan payments go out, i still have £600 (sounds nice but not when i get paid on a friday and its gone by friday evening)
Thought whats better than to ask people who are going through or been through the same as me!
Any advice will be much appreciated 🙂 Thank you!
Matt.
Bad news Matt, you are a compulsive gambler...You cannot win coz you cannot stop so the only way to beat this is to quit!
Good news though, as you know, you can beat this...A month is a really great start! You need to chalk this up to a slip, put it behind you & move back on in the direction that you were going! You didn't say how you managed to quit for so long but for me the physical key was breaking the Time-Money-Location triangle. Mentally, being on sites like this seeing other people beating the demons gave me the strength to believe that I too could get 'fixed'! I never wanted to quit, I only ever wanted to learn how to control it but as I have written to you above, there is no such thing for me!
You need to figure out a sensible repayment plan so that you are not under undue pressure & you can come back from this! Don't do what half of us on here have done & carry on trying to gamble your way out of this - You will end up where you were before or worse even!
You were doing great & you can again - ODAAT
Hi, sorry to hear about your predicament. I struggled for a long long time with gambling. I'm only two months into no gambling, but at one point I couldn't even go a day without. The difference, now in hindsight was probably truly understanding gambling, triggers, urges and I guess most important of all how serious, and effort you're ready to put in. If I had done this a few years earlier I would right now probably now a very comfortable life. The time to take action is now, you might think you're at rock bottom but you aren't, there's lots of people that would love to be in your shoes. This thing will rob you of everything and I mean everything. Money, family, friends, respect, happiness, trust, a future...it will wreck them all. It's a cancer man, yet. We do it to ourselves.
This is very serious illness, give it the respect. So you can remedy the situation with all the effort required. Otherwise it will get very very bad, and eventually to a point where oneday the storm will be just too much to weather. Goodluck, you're in the fight of your life, way beyond the £850 odd you're talking about.
I stopped by not going out in the day by myself on a weekend, always went out with friends/family who have never gambled, so there was never that temptation and they knew that i was stopping so we never walked past a bookies or anything
Started playing on my xbox one alot more than i used to, getting into certain games which stop my mind thinking about betting and just getting stuck into a good storyline in a game. Love a night playing snooker aswell so my mates are helping me out alot
I work nights now so i now sleep in the daytime which helps with urges as i hardly ever bet online.
I think i will just put it down as a blip as i didnt bet over the weekend which is always the hardest time for me, gave me time to reflect and realise im in a situation that can be salvaged! It will take time but I know i can get there!
No bet/gambling since Thursday! So onward and upwards 🙂 Thanks for the replies 🙂
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