Women Gamblers are we a minority?

I am a female gambler and I believe that there is probably a lot of us but the stigma seems greater amongst females and so is hidden more. In my own situation no one is aware of m situation which I am trying to get out of

A minority yes but a growing one. I think the explosion in online bingo, casinos, scratchcards etc have dragged women into what was generally thought as a male activity.

Hi I'm a female gambler too. I've driven myself right to the very edge with my addiction.

I've seen lots of females in the casino where I used to go, same faces day in and day out.....whether their problem was as bad as mine I don't know.

I do know through the G.A. meetings I attend that there are far less females...mostly male. I don't think though that it means there are less women gamblers.

Me too - female (63) and a CG - have been for past 15 years! I don't think females are necessarily in the minority but we are more stigmatised as we're probably supposed to "have more of a sense of responsibility" as in motherhood etc!! I recently came to this site in an effort to quit .... I pray it works! Good luck to you all! Helen.

Hi everyone

I am a female CG and at my age (59) I thought I should know better. I have been a CG for about 10 years. I don't want to reach my 60th birthday with the feelings of despair and utter disgust in myself that I have been carrying for the last few years. I want to be a 'normal' person again. The dreaded G has no age, gender or class barriers but you are all right in saying that it seems like a bigger stigma for women than men. But we are all stronger than we think, we are not alone anymore and whether we have the support of our loved ones or not we certainly have the support of our friends on here.

We can do this one day at a time but each day counts.

I wish you all well.

Elfie x

These posts make interesting reading. I am a female gambler, approximately 2 years now and it is absolutely toxic. Certainly when I gamble on the FOBT in the bookies I am generally surrounded by men, although there is the odd woman playing the machines. I mainly gamble online and I think a lot of women have probably been sucked into gambling now it's so easy to access. I'm addicted to online blackjack and just keep going back, no matter what I lose or how futile I know it is. I feel it would be more productive to simply burn a pile of notes, it's that pointless. Why can't I stop? This addiction really gets it's teeth into you and it's a long road back. I feel I'm facing a mountain. Good luck to all of you, I know what you're going through.

Me too..I'm totally addicted to Gambling 🙂

Hi also a female gambler. 27 with a young family and my own business, on the brink of loosing the lot through my habit. My family haven't a clue. I've got myself into about 14k debt all together through it, 7k of which I owe into my company and if I don't put it back asap I'm scared the consequences will ruin both my life and my families. Literally hate myself at the minute. Also addicted to online blackjack. Been winning/loosing about 10k a week for the last few month, no matter how much I win (which I often do) I never ever withdraw, always cancel the request then lose the lot, have no idea why I do it. Worried its gonna be the death of me. Just self excluded from the sites I use in the hope it'll make me stop and I literally can't afford to lose another penny. Every day is a constant battle and I'm practically arguing with myself. Can't remember the last decent night's sleep I had also, hopefully we'll all get through this. 🙂

Im 28 female (gambling for 8 yrs) Ive been here before just before I gave birth to my daughter. I was trying to stop I self excluded from all sites and had betfilter for a while. I have a very supportive partner. I eventually Confessed to my family over year ago about my problem with the online slots as I couldn't pay the rent and was very depressed and suicidal they helped me and paid off what they could but as soon as the filter expired I was back in. Spending every penny I had, lying to my family about not getting paid and bills not being paid. Every word that comes out my mouth is nearly a lie to cover up that im still secretly Gambling. I came back here today as im totally fed up with it. The same cycle every week as soon as my partner goes to work im online playing slots. I really need help. I have no money for bills or anything. Im a terrible person I know its wrong but I just can't stop. Ive got 3 payday loans in arrears, I owe my family money. It just has to stop. Today I have self excluded from all the ones I play on. I have no money or I would get the betfilter. Why do I keep doing this it hurts so bad. I can't live like this anymore it has to stop. Im scared when my partner starts his new full time job I will be alone so will do it more but I really don't want to. I just keep thinking about the big wins ive had. Ive even won lots but im so greedy I always want more. I never withdraw I just keep reversing it telling myself I can get more and pay off all my debts.

It never happens I just loose it all. 🙁 Feeling very empty and alone !!!

I am also a female compulsive gambler. I go through phases of not spending much then seem to lose control. Boredom is my biggest trigger. I hate myself which makes me gamble more.

Hi Maxi yeh thats what it is with me, Ive recently left my job and find that since im not active and out much I seem to gamble more. I need to find something to do but with me I just can't seem to stick with anything.

I was reading one of your posts and I'm in the same situation. .. 37 weeks pregnant and can't stop my self.. I admit I am a compulsive gambler and could use another female in the same situation to talk to!
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Well its been a very long hard few months, i've not been on here as i have been continuing gambling, my 7k business debt mounted to 15k and i wasnt able to provide a service to a customer who decided to take to facebook and accuse me of fraud, this has resulted in a major witch hunt against me and the local media spalshing me all over front page news, im not being investigated for fraud, just another problem to add to my list, i literally do not know where to turn, im loosing my mind right now, im still gambling every day, i owe money to family and i'm not able to cover my share of the household bills, will more than likely be looking for excuses, gambled away £900 since monday, and have left myself with not a penny, feel physically sick, i really need to speak to someone, my family have no idea, i know its a matter of time before it all comes out im just not ready, i feel i need to be in the right frame of mind, i feel i couldnt cope with hurting them, i feel so guilty. As for my buisness, well thats down the pan and will haunt me for the rest of my days, i cant even comprehend the fraud investigation, in my head i feel i havent done anything wrong as i wasnt taking a wage, what i took doesnt even cover a minimun wage over the 2 years it was running,i just know how bad it all looks. Please help, i cant carry on like this.