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Hi Bornagain, thank you for your response,

I can understand your frustrations if my comments, or my point of view, even vaguely resembled other people that have responded to you, but I am a world away from that in both heart, mind, body and soul.

Apart from that, I don't know really know what to say. I have been on your side from day 1, and I still am; I have been touched by what you have written, and I have been heartened by your progress - if someone writes something that inteferes with how well you are doing, then it goes against everything I believe in.

Anything you decide to do is entirely your call my friend, but please don't think of me as the enemy; I want you to do well, I want you to make progress, I want you to come through this like I did, and I don't want anyone making comments or criticizing you. I will always maintain that stance my friend, whether you like me or not.

I would be more than happy to act as an administrator for your diary; if I see anything like this again, then I will be the first to send them a response, backing you to the hilt and deflating any kind of directness.

I'm sorry again my friend. As I said, I want to be your friend, and I want to support you and wish you well; I enjoy helping people, I enjoy giving advice, and I like to see people doing well.

My Mother and Father both died in 2004, and then my fiance passed away from cancer the following January, aged 29. We used the same funeral directors, each and every time; I remember asking him, "Isn't each funeral just like another day at work?" and he said "No, each one is special, each one is different" - I didn't understand what that meant then, but I do now; each post is special, each person is special - this is why I feel a world away from what was said to you my friend.

JamesP

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Hi Half-life - Unfortunately even though Bornagain has conducted himself with the utmost restraint, he seems to have been tarred with the same brush as the perpetrators of those attacks on him and his posts have therefore been stopped...... as no doubt this one will be before long.

Joanna

Evening ladies,

I've had correspondence from bornagain in the last couple of days and he is not able to post anything on his diary as well as any other pages it would seem.

I am extremely concerned as to bornagain's wellbeing and the effect the last week on these pages have had on him. There is no way that he will return to gambling, however, his faith in the site that has brought us all together for the greater good of our recovery has been sadly damaged. I worry that he will not return to the site. If this is the case, for me, yourselves and no doubt many many more, he will be sadly missed.

I know that i will not be alone in hoping that this mess all gets cleared up quickly and the embargo bornagain finds himself constrained by is lifted.

Mr B

Hear hear Mr B. I too have been in touch with Bornagain and am appalled at his treatment. I for one will not wish to remain part of a set-up which allows bullies to flourish and innocent victims to be treated like pariahs.

Joanna

Dear Bornagain

We have sent some emails to the address you set up with us when you joined the forum - we're not sure if you are checking this account or not but we did not receive a reply from you.

Please can you check your emails and we can take things from there.

If for any reason you are unable to access that account please can you send an email to forumadmin@gamcare.org.uk so that we can communicate with you.

Best wishes

Forum Admin

Have just logged on and not sure if I imagined your post but it has now disappeared.

You asked for help and all I can say is please drive on, anywhere just don't stay parked where you are it's way to difficult to manage the urges when they are as strong and as close by as you say.

Don't give up now we are all here even if not able to communicate and all have been and will be again in the same situation as you are now.

Stay strong and take care

xxx

Hi Dragonfly,

You didn't imagine the post - it did appear and disappeared very quickly. bornagain did make the post at around midday today, but his posts are being moderated at the moment which is why it took so long to appear. Fortunately I spoke to him earlier and he did not venture into the bookies but is maintaining his abstinence.

He has asked me to thank you on his behalf for the speed in which you responded and for the care that you showed and advice you offered.

Kind regards,

Mr Brightside

It is really disappointing that this diary has been moderated in such a way that Bornagain has been left in a position of great vulnerability, unable to share his thoughts and feelings with the GamCare community. Judging from some of his posts he needs all the support he can get and I do not think that dismantling the diary in such a way that its continuity is lost has helped matters. There was hardly anything of any serious magnitude posted on here - just a petty disagreement. Moderation in everything, including moderation. Good luck and stay strong Bornagain!