a new chapter

Hiya needtomoveon 🙂

You've done the right thing by coming on here. You'll get lots of support from people that understand what you're going through. It really does help a lot. If you're really struggling you can click on the netline option and speak to an advisor 1 to 1. They're all very good. There's also the chat sessions on an afternoon and evening can be helpful (evening sessions are usually better... Busier, more people to talk to).

Take care and I look forward to seeing you progress and improving your life!

Stubbsy 🙂

Thanks stubbsy, already looking forward to day 2, and can already see how much support is here! I really think I can do it!

Needtomoveon ...

Your user name is what I told myself a thousand times throughout my gambling lifestyle , I got so used to telling myself it had no effect

We are all on here for the same reason .. Defeating the evil demon which makes you think it's ok to do this and that but we all know the nasty consequences which can never ever be changed no matter what ..

No matter how much we challenge the gambling demon which at some point may be in our favour .. Never changes, gambling isn't our friend it's a disease

The result is always the same and after days and weeks being gamble free you will start to discover new things and be free of the hold this s**t has over you.

Tom:686 - I know what u r saying and I hope to take it one day at a time! Well on day 2 and been okay, still have had the urge to go online tonight but I know I won't. Guess alot of it is habit and I just have to learn to break the cycle. Went for a job interview for a evening/weekend job today which will fit around my job and if I get it will give me some extra money to start paying off what I owe. Even if I don't get it at least it is a positive move rather than thinking a big win will sort out my problems! Silly it has come to this really but I also thought it may fill up some of the time in the evenings when I get bored so fingers crossed but I won't let it set me back if I don't get it! Just got to manage the rest of this evening and then on to day 3. Hope everyone else is doing well xx

Hey Needtomoveon,

Thank you very much for post. U made me smile:-) i'm used to look at things a bit pessimistic, but you are right, maybe better reasons lying beneath haha.

Anyway i am really happy for you for finding this side and there is a lot of support here. I know its gonna b hard, but thats why we are here, the understanding of people makes it a bit easier to get through hard days. Just stay close and keep posting. We will do it!

Day at the time..

Sandra x

You sound really positive, that's got to be good.

On day two myself, they soon add up though.

Use this time to really put some effort into you and your recovery.

Good luck with the job.

Stay Positive.

Hey Sanda and defeated, thanx for posting- so nice to know I have support on here and hope u r doing well. Feel really positive today on day 3 and don't want to go online, feel so much better for having somewhere to write my thoughts down. Anyway found out I got the job and really excited about it as I see it as a start to my new life! It is gonna give me something to do in my spare time other than go online, its gonna give me some extra cash to start paying off my debts and more importantly it has given me confidence to know I can do this x

Hey Needto move on,

Welcome to the forum, I have found this forum and my diary a lifeline and path to normal living once again, I will be 14 months gamble free next week, and couldnt of done it without this forum and the people on it.

Use your diary wisely, post how your feeling and yout thoughts and urges, the good bad and the ugly pour it all out, I found that there were underlying issues why i gambled and have and will always continue to address those.

Read other peoples diarys you will find lots of tips and information, you have to committ to yourself to "Do whatever it takes" ?, Recovery is bespoke to you .

Your first posts sound really positive and the new job is a fantastic start, use that positivitly and new found confidence to tackle this head on, I can promise you 100% it will be worth it.

One day at a time, thats all you need to do.

Wish you all the very best

Take care

Blondie

Thanx Blondie, I have been coming on here on and off for a couple of months but only took the step a few days ago after another big loss to admit I had a problem and to start moving on with my life. I know it is gonna be hard but no harder than looking at myself in the mirror the morning after another loss 😉 and at least I can be proud of myself for doing this. I hope in time I can help others, but would like to thank this site for the help it has already given me. Rather than sitting at my computer scared at how much I had lost tonight I am on here and I am smiling. That has to be a good start! Take care all xx

Btw Blondie - well done on the 14 months you must be very proud of yourself that is a massive achievement x

Hi needtomoveon and welcome to this forum. You are doing well so far and I think it is really important to try and stay as positive as can be when abstaining.

It looks like you have got yourself off to a good start with plenty of positivity. It sounds really good also, that you have put in for an extra job, one that will hopefully fill that void now you have quit gambling. I hope you get it and if you don't, at least you tried and had the right idea in the first place.

I too have only took up gambling seriously just under three years ago but with devastating consequences. Never again!!

Stay strong and keep writing in your diary, it really does help.

Take care.

Feb.

Day 4 and feeling good, no real desire to gamble - mind you weekends are normally the killer for me, so hoping to get through the next few days and looking forward to getting into double figures! re-read my intro today and think I will do that if ever I get the urge as it reminds me how bad I felt only a few days ago and how quickly I forget that feeling - one which I never want to go through again. Roll on day 5 x

Day 6 - nearly a week, but the weekend is where the real challenge is. Hopefully I will be strong, I don't have any desire to gamble at the moment although the thought it always with me. In time I hope it will start to fade. Roll on day 7 x

Hi needtomoveon,

Well done on day 7! You doing really great. It will get easier, just try and concentrate on something else you like to do, if you get any urges, just log in here, because you can find the biggest support here, and that's what you need going through this, especially on early days of recovery.

Thanx for your post, and keep up your good job. I will get better, just step at the time.

Sandra x