So close to clearing debt... only to slip back further than I was before. Will this madness end?? Somehow able to get a second loan to replace existing and save a few pennies only to burn through the majority in 2 days! Lowest I've ever been. Gambling is killing me. So ashamed and feeling hopeless. Multi operator scheme a joke. Debit transactions in shops should be banned. Slot machines have ruined my life. Not sure I can make it back this time...
Bloody hell! You can make it back. Chin up. Clean sheet. Aliens abducted you and you landed on earth with what you’ve got (I know it’s weird but it helps me to think this way...) and you’d survive! Keep a grip and keep the faith.
You can turn this around. Talk to someone, no one would want you to go through this on your own
It's not just the money lost its the life that goes with it.
All those years working for nothing.
Pointless
People earning half as much as me have moved on in life and I have less than nothing.
What's the point???
I am the parent of a gambler so I have heard the words in your last post many times over.
"The point is" - you can have a future that will mean you are working for good things and not losing all to gambling. The important thing and the best thing you have done now is to come on here to get help. That means you really want to overcome this. A lot of people are in denial but you are facing up to your problem and admitting there is a problem. That takes guts. I can only offer some advice that has worked for us. Ring Gamcare and they will advise you on where to go to get your finances sorted. There is good debt advice around. Stop taking out more loans - especially if that money is tempting you to gamble. Loan companies are a nightmare and some make it so easy for people who cannot actually afford them. Don't get me started on them!! Try and get someone to take over your finances so that your funds are not easily accessible to you. I know this is not always possible but it really is a deterrent. Ask Gamcare about ways of getting blocks on the gambling sites and Gambling meetings etc. Make an appointment with your doc if you are really down. Be honest about your problem and they are really good at recommending support. You say you had nearly sorted out your debts before so if you can do that once you can do it again. I will not lie, trying to get this sorted is very much a rollercoaster ride of good and bad days but I can assure you there is light at the end of the tunnel if you put your mind to it. Make today Day 1 of not gambling and keep counting the days and keep talking on here. You already have good supporters above.
Read the posts in all sections of Gamcare and you will see you are not alone with your problem.
Good luck.
Dear Cantstopkeeplosing
Welcome to the GamCare forums. Please don't be alone with this, if you need to chat to someone in the coming days I would encourage you to call either our HelpLine 0808 8020 133 or on the NetLine
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I do appreciate those kind words I really do. But this time feels different. I'm no longer a young man (Will be 32 shortly) and the weight of all these losses is crushing me.
I've no idea how or why I let this get to this stage. All my options feel like some version of terrible. My girlfriend had been supportive but has no idea about the last 2 days of madness. Even worse is I had managed to recover my recent online losses and be able to pay off the one loan with the one I had recently taken out. 48 hours ago I had a future...
The trouble is now for the first time the goal is no more than starting at zero. I respect your views on being content but I just wanted a better life for myself hence why I did all the qualifications and stayed in a toxic job. Even my dad told me all I'm doing now is giving money to people who are already rich. This was before the last 2 days.
I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression as I've had issues with a toxic manager at work.
Thought I'd escaped through a secondment only for that to not lead to anything more permanent. Forced to go back to my old job and same team / culture.
Shock horror old problems resurface. I wanted to quit rather than go back but was talked out of it - most expensive mistake I've made since.
Me and my partner are supposed to be looking at buying in the new year. It's a case of me now being a liability if we went for a joint mortgage. The irony is she's the complete opposite in terms of savings and being sensible!
Convinced if I tell her about recent events than that's it for us... Part of me would be relieved as at least id never be able to put her in any financial difficulties - though would like to point out I've only ever spent my own money on gambling
Hi can’t stop keep losing, I have just read your most recent post about your partner. I am the girlfriend of a gambler, in less than a year he racked up over 50k of debt and I found this out before he ever got the chance to tell me. He lapsed last week and gambled £800 (which is a lot, especially as he is forking out for debts). If I had any advice for you whatsoever, it would be to tell your girlfriend, be completely honest because it is 10000000x worse if she finds out you have done it without ever telling her. If she loves you she support you.
I am in the same position as you it’s been 7 years of hell your not alone good luck x
Cheers Aimee08 Whip94
It's much appreciated. Day 1 complete.
These institutions promoting things like fobts and online casinos allowing credit cards deposits are predators. The worst part is recognising problem gambling developing in others. You can almost see someone slipping to the other side. All I got to do next is plan my next move.
Day 2. It's a beautiful day but I still wake up thinking of debt and the effect it'll have on the future. Also on my mind is the fact I'm going to be at a family wedding where people will be wondering and enquiring why haven't I got my own place yet? Can't exactly tell them the truth.
Im worried of being exposed, the whole pack of cards ready to collapse around me... It's pay day this week so need to take necessary checks and protection. I've increased the number of shops on the self exclusion list. Not helped by the fact I travel for work and am commuting to another city until August. Just hit me that half my pay slip will be going to debt for at least 10 months 🙁
Can’t stop keep losing, be optimistic!! You’ve made the decision to stop which is amazing and whilst 10 months seems like a life time, it could be a lot worse and 10 months will fly by once your into the hang of things!! Good luck with your journey!
Struggling to overcome the self hate. I'm embarrassed at the sheer weakness of it all... Looking to get a 2nd job to speed up the repayments. I can't stop thinking about the things I could've done with all this money wasted on gambling.
I go to bed most nights hoping I don't wake up. Hate having nothing. Couldn't imagine my life being like this.
Where'd did it all go so wrong?
Day 3 passed.
Trying to look forwards but keep looking back.
Anyone else feel like they've been personally cursed by this disease? The worst part is there's so little support available and gps are next to useless.
You just feel all alone tackling this evolving and resilient addiction.
The fact I can now no longer be trusted with large cash in my account is distressing. I feel more of a burden to my partner and those around me then anything else.
No one knows about the recent relapse as I'm too embarrassed and ashamed to bring it up.
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