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Yo,

Just popping my head around the door to see if your ok .

Shiny xx

Hi MW

Hope this finds you well

gazza

Yo,

Wanted to write something , but it's difficult to know what .

If its all gone peak tong , you know where we are . And never give up giving up. One day my dear dear friend you will get it right .

If it hasn't gone peak tong , then good for you and I hope my message finds you and yours all well and enjoying this poor excuse for a summer .

Just know you are in my thoughts .

Shiny xxxxx

Hey There,

Just echoing Shiny's post. Thinking bout cha and wishing you well. -joanxxxxx

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Ade.

Fella welcome back.

You know the score my friend most wins are a temporary loan from the bookmaker, we return to do that and many more of our hard earnt pounds.

The money for me towards the end of my gambling life became meaningless, I went tot the bookies with the intention of losing it, it was just life!!

This addiction will keep taking it till it breaks you fella, it broke me, it won, took all i had to wage and more.

My advice take some help fella, Ga, here, the doc's, a friend something to hel pyou carry the addiction, get you to a better place.

To abstain and maintain.

Think of all the good abstinence brings you, your diy projects, the enjoyment of your kids, family and the humour that comes with it.

Abstinence brings all this and more.

Today you did win because you did stop.

Just for today enjoy the serenity of it.

Tomorrow do it again.

Unconditionally fella we can do this.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thanks for the supportive post Duncs.

Keeping strong and keeping real.

Ade

Yo,

I read your post a few hours ago , and it has stayed with me while I decided how I wanted to reply .

Firstly thank you for your honesty , and secondly with the secretcy involved in our addiction and the presure put on us by ourselves , our nearest and dearest , society . It can at times feel that we are alone in going through this. And that our compulsion is that much greater than the next jo . You come on here and read of the sucesses and that can be added presure .

What you wrote I have been there , got the tshirt . Infact got a million .

All you can do mate is your best , get up tomorrow and its another day . A day when you focus on it being bet free .

I know hard it is to keep this addiction at bay . But please please give yourself a break . Be kind to Ade .

This addiction feeds on low self worth and negativity .

So get back on the horse my dear dear friend because I truely believe that one day you will get it right .

Big fat hugs !

Shiny xxxxx

Hi Ade,

I totally get it. And, there are definitely people out here who care about you. I am one of them and I am rooting for you as duncs says unconditionally. Listen, I am just soo glad you got right back on here and into your diary. You are right. Everybody is different. I had to really get knocked down hard before I finally said enough is enough. And, I will always have to be on my guard. I can never say never. All I can say is one day at a time. You will get there friend. Til then we are here for you pal. Big hugs from me too. Cowgirl style. 😉 -joanxxx

Hi Ade,

The good ladies have said it already but i just wanted to add that you must believe that you are worthy of this, You are worthy of recovery, let go of the past and forgive yourself and I dont mean that in a forget it never happened way but at some point you have to say, you f***** up, your human, your not perfect.... BUT your learnt something and now your going to move on .

Today is a new day and another chance to turn it around.

Take care ade.

Blondie x

Thankyou sooooo much ladies (or should that be Ade's Angels! :0)) for your kind supportive posts.

Your support and kindness are a big boost to me, just as Duncs instant post yesterday was.

I am starting all over again, but I am seeing things much clearer and am already in a better frame of mind.

Yesterday I took the day off work and took my girls to the park for 2 hours in the morning and watched them whizz around on their Flikers and roller skates, then took them for lunch at a very noisy half-term-packed Pizza Express! Back home for a rest before taking them to the local indoor rock climbing wall for an hour. ack home again, then took eldest girl to swimming club in the evening. A great day. A million trillion miles from where I was 24 hours previously.

I will soon be back to being a better person, and a more regular visitor to this forum.

The supportive posts from you kind people on here, that really understand this addiction are so so helpful, that it is very hard to put into words. People that Iam likely to never meet showing such support is very touching.

I will respond to you all soon. But I am off again today with my girls and off to the shops soon to buy some scoubidou strings! (google it!) they're great fun for kids!! ;0)

Keep strong all

Ade

MW.

Glad to hear you are feeling better.

After giving my story at GA one night, a member told me that i should take comfort from the fact that my kids don't know me as a gambler-thankfully they haven't suffered as a result of it. Not sure about their Mum though, although i'm trying to make amends there on a daily basis.

That gives me the strength to stay clear from a bet.

All the best mate,

gazza

Ade.

With honour and strength fella it is great to see you filling your time with things that build up your soul.

One day at a time.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thanks very much Gazza and Duncs.

Today has been great for me. Another reality-check day, off work with my 10 and 7 year-old daughters.

I am so lucky to have them. They have no idea how low I have stooped in the past to feed my addiction.

That is all in the past now. I am moving forward as and the future is going to be much better for me.

Keep strong all

Ade

Hi Ade

Glad your back and on the path ...no need to reply as i know you need your focus right now and support from folks who understand ...just extending my good wishes and remember the door swings both ways ..

R and D xx