I lost everything…

Hi welcome for seeking help, you are in the right place, first of all gambling is a horrible illness and what you are explaining   is far to common this wasent all your fault gambling makes u do things out of your control it messes up your thought process however saying this with right step in place and wanting to make the change you too can improve am on day 361 without a bet their few other with partners who were exacly your situation who are now giving the best advice so be reasured you are not alone

@tazman thank you so much for your kind words. Maybe this is exactly what I need a reality check to make a change and finally quit. Congratulations on the big milestone approaching, you are an inspiration!

So sorry for you! U will get everything again! Believe! ! ! Never stop

@bernadetteuk good evening

You have now been honest for the first time so that is a positive move. It shows your partner that you do want the same as him but need help to do so.

As a mother of a son with previous gambling harm, complete honesty is the key to the start of recovery if you want it hard enough and reach out to get serious help for it . Its a hard road to do without support but so worth it. 

0808 8020133 is the helpline number if you want to talk to an adviser about how we can specifically help. I can vouch for the service as spent so many occasions just talking to a non judgemental person.

Best wishes to you and hope all goes well

Patsy 

Online peer Supporter

Hi, and welcome to the best place you could come to for help. Your story hits such a chord with me. Coming clean was the toughest thing I’ve ever done, but I knew I’d I didn’t it would only end one way. Even more broke and definitely without a wife. At least coming clean when I did gave me a slim chance at saving something. 

Trust was the issue my wife couldn’t accept. Gamblers are devious. We never really outright lie, we just hide the truth. We get very good at it. I can imagine if my partner was hiding something from me for years, and so well, I’d struggle to come to terms with it too. I hope your partner can accept what you’ve done and help you in your road to recovery. Prove to them how you’ll change, prove you mean it. Open and honest transparency is the only way forward now. 

Wishing you all the best in your recovery. Please keep us updated. It really does help to open up to people, even if it’s complete strangers on here. Ultimately we are all in the same boat, and probably have been in your situation in one way or another, so don’t feel like you’re alone.

Stay strong 💪