The Pub sound's like a good call Mixer and I'm sure it would atract many regular's but I think we need a Good and appropriate name . It's funny with pub name's you have all the traditional ones , the " Nag's head " " King's arms " and " Queens head " but What is it about Head's and arms ? I'm waiting for the day they anounce the opening of the " Queen's Leg's " but it could be a while yet , I do have a " Fawcett Inn " close by though :)).
If admin don't get me I'll talk with you soon my friend .
Stay safe :))
Hi Alan,
Yes; watch out Alan; because although I don't think admin will get you the "Easily Offendeds" might force their hand: they are always in the neighbourhood ready to shout foul. However, as you rightly say, the "Fawcett Inn" is a real pub, near Southsea, not too far from the great city of Portsmouth.
Likewise, the "The Legend of Oily Johnnies" is a pub, in Winscales, Cumbria, named in honour of a patron called Johnny, who sold pariffin oil on the premises. I mention this because we are looking at a new name for our new virtual pub, although I concede that this one might not be the best choice. Just throwing it into the mix ...
I'm sure we'll all come up with a good choice very soon; Abstainer, any ideas? 🙂
Dare I ask if youv'e been in the " Oily Johnnies " :)) LoL !
I think I'd better stop there :))
Yes, I think so, Alan, the "Easily Offendeds" are starting to huff and P uff and starting to circle 🙂
However, I feel it polite to answer your question, at least, Alan: No, I can't say I have ever swung by "Oily Johnnies" (as it's referred to by the locals).
It's good to have moments of levity such as this Alan; I know we both agree. Being gambling-free is a very serious business, but it's good to open our eyes to the gambling-free life and the world we have been missing, and can now reclaim. As that fine Welsh poet W. H. Davies said in his famous poem:
Love that poem Mixer, It's good to sometimes just turn off and enjoy the wonder that is all about us. Strange how some people like running around like headless chickens, seems they can't relax and always feel they have to be doing something.
Enjoyed reading your plans for Mixers Ale House. Ha ha it sounds quite impressive with fine ales at affordable prices and loads of other good stuff, Full of admiration for your inventiveness and colourful imagination. Sadly I've been on the wagon for almost 27 years so pubs are not really my thing any more. I did try going in the chatroom once but i'm a bit puddled now and it all went a bit too fast for me. ( I'm convinced the fobts mashed up my brain ). I will take a stroll through Mixers Wood though, glad to learn it's open to the public.
This day in 1180 The Battle of Ishibashiyama was fought in Japan....Not many know that !
Thanks abstainer; I've replied to you on your thread 🙂
I'm on Day 35.One day at a time, and enjoying a gambling free life as long as I choose, every day, not to gamble.
I drop into a few diaries every morning. Abstainer, The Ghost, Alan, Phil and one or two others. Then I make a vow not to gamble. Then I set off to enjoy my day, with my loved ones, work colleagues, friends. And remind myself how lucky I am; and the choices I'm free to make.
Morning Mixer hope your happy and well, wishing you a great gamble free weekend.
I've heard it said that someone standing up for an ideal sends a ripple of hope across the world, many ripples together can become a strong current that can smash down the walls of tyranny and injustice. Your sending out some great ripples through the diaries and it is much appreciated.....stephen
Thanks for that post Mixer. Hope you have a great day out with your son, good times for you both, lovely memories that will always be with you.
I always carry an Asda gift card in my wallet, always handy if I need anything from shops and I can't gamble with it.
If ever you get any urges just remember we're always there together helping each other along....stephen
Hello mixer I've seen you mention Allan Carr's book a few times thought I'd give my take on it if you don't mind ( friendly debate only) Many moons ago I was smoking maybe 30 or so cigarettes a day and come across his book perched on a book shelf in a train station. Don't quote me on this one but I believe it was quit smoking the easy way ? Just the word easy should of sent alarm bells ringing because nothing that's worth doing is ever easy right? Any way bought the book thinking this would be the best £10 I've ever spent. Spent the best part of two nights reading it, noted the book was him mostly trying to work the power of persuasion which I believe doesn't work when it's read by subject. Words such as I don't need to smoke and I'm not addicted were pretty much on every single page. Obviously trying to reinforce the idea in ones mind, obviously all that happened was I'd spent a tenner and lost a few hours. If anything I'd spent that long reading about smoking it made me want one more so I give it a big fat fail. Moving on books which have the title quit the easy way or how to overcome an addiction I swerve like the wind . Here's why if someone had successfully written a book that could cure any addiction it would be number one best seller the world over. To me the guy has made millions from addictions he's never really experienced because if he had he would know that what he writes doesn't work. To me he's made money out of people's misery which even if remotely perceived to be true would make selling it unethical. That being said I'm glad you've gotten something from it to work with. Keep up the good work you're doing and best wishes
Fletch
Hi mixer and all,
re the book.
Never read one as believe recovery is not an easy process..
However..my sister read the book of stopping smoking (smoked heavy for 9 yrs I believe) & since then is clean...(another 6yrs on I believe)..what works huh?
Maybe our minds..set it for something..get results..easy in a way of you think of it, A lil harder in practise.
I believe, we are our own destinies. Mind is a massive asset we should not bypass...proven by nation...research it 😉
Best wishes..stay safe
B&S xxx
Fletch - thank you for your post, and I never mind a good debate 🙂
Like you, I've read a lot of these sort of books and would agree they're not necessarily a 'silver bullet' - but sometimes they do help and there are insights to be gained more often than not.
Allen Carr hit upon a formula with his smoking books and he has applied it to other addictions; he has made a lot of money for sure, but had his books not hit the mark for a large number of people then the sales would have reflected that ...
I would much rather see someone trying to make a few bob trying to help us stop something rather than making money perpetuating the misery: such as the cynical bookmakers, casinos, slot manufacturers and the like ...
Personally, I'll read anything and everything, and pretty much do anything, if it means I can live a gambling free life, because it's so much better than the miserable alternative. If reading Allen Carr's, or indeed anyone else's book adds 1% to my resolve, then I'll take it!
I do take your point of view, Fletch; and agree, these books by themselves aren't the panacea. But if they help... even a bit... that'll do for me 🙂
Thanks again for an interesting post, Fletch, happy to continue the debate 🙂
SJB - thank you for your post. I am a keen believer that the answer to our gambling woes can be found in our heads, and that controlling and taming this gambling beast is all about our mindsets.
We can change our mindsets by persuasion and repetition as the realisation of the sheer destructiveness of gambling, and why, slowly descends. Pennies start to drop. I believe brains can be retrained and wholeheartedly agree that we truly are the masters of our destinies (apart from what life can throw at us as part of the natural course of events, of course!).
But I am a firm believer that, to a degree, we can create our own luck. Gambling puts us in a state of below par outcomes 'from the off', so from a logical pint of view, if nothing else, it makes no sense!
Thanks SJB, a thoughtful post and I wish you well.
Hi Mixer, just wanted to thank you for your recent support and say well done to you for 38 days 🙂
I am willing to try anything this time round in stopping gambling and I will give Allen Carr's book a go. I did find his book helped me to stay resolved when I gave up smoking before. Don't think it would have persuaded me on its own but a good back up for when the cravings hit!
Unfortunately i did start smoking again but that's another story and not Allen Carr's fault 🙁 I still have his book at the ready for when I kick the weed. Right now my no 1 priority is to remain gf but being a non-smoker is also on that list.
Hope you have a great gamble free day 🙂
Well I'm 2 off the 30 I'm so determined to reach this target and we'll done to you for you reaching your total so far
Morning Mixer, thankyou for visiting my diary. As you rightly point out we have our mind of reason (conscience) giving us wholesome guidance, but we also have thoughts and urges which come from a much darker source. Irrespective of where it all comes from we have the final say in how we respond to it, we have the free will to make decisions and choose which path we want to follow.
Loving your ***Guru Challenge*** in the Overcoming Gambling section. I relish every gamble free day, reaching milestones gives me motivation, reaching guru status of 300 days will be a big day for me.
Thankyou for all the support you give to GamCare friends and best wishes In your own recovery. We're all going forward on the same journey, it's good that we can help and support each other.....stephen
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