Evening everyone,
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I have been spending some time reading though forums and joining the available Live Chats. It has really inspired me to keep going and to finally become gamble free.
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I’m 39 and have been gambling since I was 13/14. Fruit machines at the local arcade then bookings/amusements/online when I got to 18. Slots are my go to, and I’m not really interest anything else, I have tried a lot of different things in this time. Face to Face, over the phone counselling, and currently just about to start peer to peer support. The previous times have always worked, the longest was 434 days which needed in November 2023. The problem seems to arise when I am set free from the normal 1,2,3 weekly meetings and I think I’m cured and can gamble at sensible amounts, which is never the way.
I recently spent 2k on slots, (this was money that I managed to save over a longer period) and blew it over a few days. Enough is enough and I am back on the straight and narrow. I will keep updating here as I go though my journey to keep my self in check.
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Day 3 completed - Gamble free.
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Martin
Hi martin,
Well done for getting the support you need on here and live chats and for also making to day 3.
The lesson learned here is that no matter how much time you work on being gamble free and for how long we always need to work on some sort of recovery and not to get complacent.
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I remember going 3 years without gambling and deviated basically into another form of it in which I realized and let go of it and reset my days.
Some recovering compulsive gamblers have to understand if it's a form of gambling it's gambling like the lottery... We had one chap who used to come to meetings but thought it was ok to just play the lottery as it wasn't much, after months he realized it was and made him go into slots again.
My best advice is to clear house and be honest with yourself in which it looks like you are. If you get a chance or if it's local try a GA meeting for just as support help and perspective.
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Always find it incredible how much money people can spend on slot machines
Spins on physical machines are capped at what 1-2 quid ?
so to go through 2 grand must have taken a full day of non stop play ?Â
Did you not get fed up at any stage ? even when I was in my prime online jumping between slots , roulette and blackjack after 2-3 hours I would of had a gutsful of it because its so mind numbingÂ
Not judging but just genuinely find it fascinating how one is able to spend so long gambling in one sessionÂ
Hi Martin,
Interesting post, crazy to hear you got introduced to slots at such a young age but you should take courage from the fact you stopped for such a long time before, it means you have the ability to do it again.
One thing I would point out is if you truly want to stop, I would recommend completely stopping all gambling, setting a budget may work for a short period of time but more than likely this approach will fail and only lead to more gambling with larger amounts of money as you chase that dopamine hit.
Danny
Hello All, and thanks to the members who took the time to interact with my post.
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The main point I have taken from you all is not to let any other form of gambling to creep in and then potentially lead me back to the slots. I could spend all day on the slots and not get bored, it really just does take me away into another world.
Looking back though, when I was gamble free for over a year, it was a much better, I fact amazing, life in general. I always had money, I didn’t use as much credit cards etc and I felt like I had achieved something that was for me. Looking forward to going back to those days.
Thanks
Martin
Good luck martin, keep reading and coming back hereÂ
Hi Martin, Well done for taking back control, hope all is well. How did Day 5 and now 6 go?
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Thanks for reaching out, it is really helping me to stay on track. Still gamble free, on day 6 today. Still waiting for the peer support email to get me started, but keeping positive. Hope you all are having a good day, TGIF!Â
Martin
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Hello all,
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I unfortunately had a slip up on Thursday and am now back to day 4. I am disappointed, but I know I have the support just round the corner and I really need to give it a go. I know I am not thinking straight but as my peer support hadn’t started I think in the heat of the moment, (I was at a planned birthday day out in the pubs and my friends were also gambling) I just thought I will have a small gamble now and then start again when I am talking with someone.
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i really don’t want to waste anyone’s time, but I felt if I didn’t come back and write I could easily go back the way.
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Hope you all had a good day.
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Good evening all,
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Day 6 today, and it was payday! Managed to not gamble and had a good day. Another day down. 🥳
Well done Martin, great work. Payday is always the best day of the month ahah. Just make sure its your money and not the bookies 😉 Good luck
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31 days today. I now have peer to peer support and took up the 4 sessions of extra help calls. It is really helping, urges still somewhat strong.
just got to keep on going.
hope everyone has a great Christmas.
M
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