Hey Jon....you came to the right place...Just glad to have you back no matter what circumstances...
Wont start firing questions at you...just stay close to your diary and people on here that know and can be there for you....
I shall B*****r off now as no doubt people will want to post to give you support ..I shall look out for you ...music night owls once you find your feet again...
You can do this hun.....day one...jump back on the path and take it one day one step...
Post whenever you feel up to it...no pressure...and no beating yourself up.
((((((((J )))))))))
R and D xxxx
Jon.
Fella your back in the right place.
Words today may feel a little hollow and the feelings will be raw.
I will say this, i hit the bottom, as far as addiction could take me, it beat me up good and proper.
One thing from this is guaranteed my friend from today the only way is up.
Tomorrow that mantra will be through the right choice the polar opposite.
I did win because i did stop.
And with it a 100% payrise.
It takes courage to admit defeat.
You can do this. One minute, one hour,one day at a time things will get better.
Duncs stepping forward never back.
Hey Mr B,
You have made the right decision and guess what. ? as long as your breathing its NEVER to late to turn it around, im sure it doesnt feel like that at the moment, so im not going to say any happy clappy stuff just this
Its down to you john, there is help and support out there try it ? Try it all, it might work but you wont know untill you try. What do you have to lose. ? Just dont give up... Dont let it beat you anymore.
Remember we understand .
Take care of yourself john.
Blondie x
Hi Jon,
Just dropping by to say I am thinking about you and I hope that your reaching out for some support.
We are hear should you need us.
Take care
Blondie x
I knew the moment had arrived
For killing the past and coming back to life...
Time
A southern comfort and u tube evening was it ?.
Hope all is well in pratchett land
Blondie
Many southern comforts later......
I read.... I think..... I hide....
It's a process.... slip sliding awayyy
I knew a man, he came from my hometown.
He wore his passion for .... and so it carries on....
I am weak, and clever.... in a " find a way to gamble" kind of way.
Blocks... blocks... b*****ks.... I found a way.
There is only one way if you are like me...
I am a "binger"....an "online binger"... can go weeks without, but once I start there is no stopping me... till the end.
And the way is:
1. Order a new card.
2. Don't open it.
3. Give it to a trusted person who you have told the truth to.
4. And relax..... no more online gambling.
Give your money over... have somebody watching you... slip.... and recover ... but you have to face up to your money watcher.
It's working for me... but it took me several thousands of pounds to get there.............
I needed a watcher... a big one.... my big sister..
She asks questions when I want money, I have to account for it all... and it is working for me.
So ... if you are an online addict/binger..... forget blocks... jump to.... no card and a friend... ( as long as you do not know those 3 magic numbers.... you know the ones I mean... you can't do it, especially late at night after a drink)
Hope this helps somebody... its helping me.
Jon
PS: "Light thinks it travels faster than anything but it is wrong. No matter how fast light travels, it finds the darkness has always got there first, and is waiting for it.
" TP
Nice one Jon, you found your way, the way which works for you and I'm made up for you. It's frustratingly simple, if you can't gamble then you won't gamble. It takes a big, big man to admit having a problem and an even bigger man to ask for help. I hope this has given you peace of mind and you can relax and enjoy those 'southies' you richly deserve.
Keep quotin TP, don't know where you get them all from.
Steve
A few southies later... but only a few.... a reward for finishing school reports.
Still a frequent reader... watching the ups and downs... I often wonder why... I suppose I need to know that others are going through the same thing as I am and that I am not alone in this struggle.
It has been nearly 3 months since my last Binge... and whilst there are doors open to me to gamble if I so wish, I am managing to stay in the " no choice but to not do it" mode... I am nowhere near in a place where I can have full control over my finances... and for now I am happy with that... I seem to always have money in my wallet, and even though my "children" (18 & 21) are eating me out of house and home, I am starting to get on top of my financial predicament.
I followed Rach's advice and went to step change and my DMP hopefully starts at the ends of this month. Strangely it will put me in a better long term position. Beforehand I was just maintaining the debts I had... this way they will begin to come down... and there will be a light at the end of the tunnel for once.
Anyway a fairly sober Southern Comfort entry this evening. Hope all is well this evening in everyone's world, and tomorrow is another day.
Jon
PS: "Most gods throw dice, but Fate plays chess, and you don't find out til too late that he's been playing with two queens all along." TP
Hey hey hey Mr Jon
That is fantastic news about Stepchange ...and rather than the situ being static all the time it now feels like things are moving and getting sorted out ...
For me Stepchange have been great..and no doubt I'm also on their Xmas card list given at one time my daily call to them at the Stepchange plus team...lol
Debt aside what II have found reassuring is how they have explained to me exactly how the system works as many of us I guess start googling on the Internet for answers and get about 30 different opinions or listening to stories of friends of friends and what happened to them and get more confused.
At least this way I know exactly what will come in the post ,what it means , not to be afraid by things that look like baliff letters or threatened by it and more importantly how to deal with it ...
That alone has helped me feel more in control and has stopped me knee jerking and making poor decisions based on ignorance and fear that no doubt would have landed me further in the brown stuff.
Good to see you are still around mr J and keeping southern comfort in business..lol ...
I have missed my Midnight DJ sessions
R and D xxx
Great to hear you're on the up Jon. It must be nice to have that stability back in your life.
Take care
Steve
Nice to see you MR B...
You have been missed 🙂
“The entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks.”
― Terry Pratchett
x
One must put up barriers
To keep oneself intact
Living in the limelight
The universal dream
For those who wish to seem
Those who wish to be
Must put aside the alienation
Get on with the fascination
The real relation
The underlying theme
Let me be weak
Let me sleep
And dream of sheep .....
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