i'm in a good place right now. still having issues with my girlfriend which is the hardest part as she still gets frustrated and i sometimes deal with it the wrong way, which creates a bigger argument. still learning that i need to be a man and take it on the chin as i have created this mess and i should take all that shes throws at me.
with regards gambling, i still have thoughts about it daily, especially when i'm watching sport, but i'm slowly getting my head around it and i know i can't even i have one bet or "just bet like my mates do". i have a problem and i dont know when to stop!
i've now made 2 months of payments from ny debts and there slowly coming down. i have an end date of july 2016 to be totally clear, so its going to be 10 months of living on very little money and not being able to do much. but i know i have been very immature in getting myself in this mess and i want to sort it out. this will be good training for me, so when i am debt free i can use my money well, save and have the things in life i should have.
i'm going to 2 GA meetings a week, which are really good. i get things off my chest to people that understand and i get good advise from other members.
the one thing i'm realising now is that how man other people are effected by this addiction, how wide spread it is and how it effects all different ages/race's/diffeent classes. i hope i have a better understanding of this, this time round and i'm going to beat it. i'm in a good place today and i don't want to gamble again!!!!
good luck all!!
Congrats on your success so far Bob,
Great to hear your continueing your attendence at GA.
Our 12 step program however tells us that our addiction can never be beaten, but it can be very successfully lived in harmony with if we manage it in the right manner.
Dan
Dan,
i'm going to give the 12 step program a go a think, nothing to loose. bit worried about the religious parts of it as i hate religion. but i'm willing to give it a go and see it will help me become the better person i long to become. Some of the guys were talking about it the other day, so i'm going to attend a meeting about the 121 steps.
Bob
i'm in a good place right now. i did have some temptations last week for some reason, had this real urge inside of me when i was in the bath strangly enough. later that day i was walking past a bookies and the urge to go in was massive. not sure why, but i resisted and i hope i can keep doing the same as i know once i go back i will not stop and be back to my old ways within no time. this was a good thing in a way as i was getting a little complacent about this issue and it really did bring me back down to earth. aprt from that issue a couple of days ago, all has been good in my life. my life is improving.
Just hope i can do this, i dont want to waste a single more second of my life on this horrible addiction!
good luck all!
Bob
Bob,
​The assumption that the 12 steps are religious is unfortunately common. It is an assumption based on ignorance by people who have not taken the time to look at them properly. The steps are about spirituality, in other words re-connection, with yourself,the people around you and life in general. Religion is for people who don't want to go to hell, spirituality is for people who have been there.
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