My life with addiction

Sooooooooow ! How's thing's with you Dan ?

[ I'm so staying out of this } LoL !

Spot on Dan...a superb mini therapy.

In unity.

Good choice, Alan.

Sorry, no more puns. Will stick to the day job.

BW,

CW

Lol thanks guys. Alan you are a coward Sir ;). As to responsibility CW, simple, when it came to my gambling I surrendered my responsibility to managing it over to my HP & living by the program offered to me for free by GA just one day at a time

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Yep ! Fair one but I live to fight another day !

Take care Dan !

Hi, Dan,

I would say you took responsibility (made a choice?) to follow the Steps and hand over to the HP rather than to continue to gamble.

On with the tin hat ...best wishes, take care and thanks.

CW

Lol,Dan, for someone who has left the forum:))) (new you would not stay away) you sure have come back in top form, fantastic post, and I want to change what I posted to you emotionally destroying first because it starts with emotions then hits us mentally and then physically, even if we don't think it has, it has.these are of course my thoughts at this time with me.

I do love your debates :)) but you were naughty to have a discussion on a newcomers thread, :((( he has only just started his journey.

Suzanne xxx

you have all taken what I said way out of proportion. You all may have been posting on this forum for along time. No I am not a cg but I am the mother of a cg who came here looking for help and support, of which I have had until today. Now I feel like an outcast who has no right to be here or ask for advice or support and that I have no right to comment or support anybody else. So Thankyou and good night- wcid

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Responsibility to my recovery for sure. CW says that absolutely right for me. Were we differ is when she says 'But surely you can control you'? That statement was what took me so long to get into GA. I thought I was a bad person for always going back into gambling. Acceptance that I am addicted didn't let me off my responsibility to keep up my treatment - if anything it made me more accountable to myself, those around me, GA and society in general.

I understand discussion on choice or addiction can be painful to both sides of the argument but its only by honesty working through my issues that I can become the butterfly I was meant to be. However I never forget my family in all this. I can't make up for the years of pain I caused them. I will continue looking in the recovery mirror but not beat myself up anymore.

I hope this discussion continues for all our sakes in a respectful and supportive manner.

Tri

Hello Dan,

I do love it when you stir it up, gets people thinking and hopefully back on the right track. Albeit your latest one was a little 2 footed.

Am also hoping or pleased that you've decided to stick around, i can only speak for me but i have found your Gamcare life enlightening to myself.

I've fought for the majority of my time in seeking recovery that this addiction wasnt an illness, only to finally come to the conclusion that this sick mind is a lot cleverer than i thought. I'm hoping that this is part of the process of recovery and rather than scratching the joints of the wall of denial, i'm now actually starting to remove the bricks!!

Anyway a rambles better than a gamble. Wishing you well

​A Simple Way To The 12 Steps

1. There's a power that wants to kill you.

2. There's a power that wants you to live.

3. Which do you want (if you want to die stop here).

4. Using examples from your own life, understand that selfishness, dishonesty, resentments and fear control your actions.

5. Tell all your private and embarrassing secrets to another person.

6. Decide whether or not you want to live that way anymore.

7. If you want your life to change, ask a power greater than yourself to change it for you ( if you could have changed it for yourself, you would have long ago).

8. Figure out how to make right all the things you did wrong.

9. Fix what you can without causing more trouble in the process.

10. Understand that making mistakes is part of being human ( when you make a mistake, fix it, immediately if possible).

11. Ask for help to treat yourself and others the way you want your higher power to treat you.

12. Don't stop doing 1 through 11 and PASS IT ON

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Crikey, Dan, that's daunting, I've got no chance of self improvement with the GamAnon equivalent. What if my husband has to manage with me as I am?

BW,

CW

Lol , I suppose that's a choice he does have! 😉

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Now that's a 12 steps I can relate to.

Without wanting to start a debate about higher powers can I ask a newbie question? Can the "power greater than yourself" be the GA group itself ?

Thanks. LB x