OAU Ginger

Gingernut

welcome to the forum,a place full of like minded folk who all share a common goal,to arrest the punt,to end the misery that gambling has brought to their lives.

My advice the same advice I was gifted on my first days recovery,it still works today

There is a triangle Time-Money-location, take one away at all times and the punt becomes impossible,gifting your addled brain the chance to re-wire itself,it buys the rational side of the brain valuable time to take charge,to arrest that first bet.

Recovery does not come easy,it will take a huge amount of courage and effort,it can never be cured,there is no quickfix,there is a choice,a life choice.

Give recovery half the effort you gave your gambling and the results will astound you.

If you want conformation read some threads here,a great one to start with would be Stephen2105's thread,91 days ago the fella came here truly broken,he actually wanted to celebrate his upcoming 30th birthday by gifting himself suicide.

He is each day turning it around,his want to arrest the next bet is outweighing his desire to feed addiction.

Gingernut the same life is on offer for you fella

Embrace it

Abstain and maintain

Duncs stepping forward never back

I second everything Duncan says, follow him ginger, he will lead you like me and many others to the promise land.

Dark Place /

Thanks for the support guys,for the first time ever I really think I can kick this thanks to the great people on this forum,I really feel like a winner for the first time I won't let any body down again. Abstain and maintain what a great mantra thanks duncanmac

Off to work late shift gonna be difficult cannot forget yesterday s losses but time is a great healer put my head. Down and get on with it

Hi... its hard to come to terms with money lost... but come to terms with it we must. We can then move forward.

Thanks for your post... stay focussed as I do the same.

Regards... S.A

Logged in today caption says 3 days gambling free, but to be honest that's not willpower it's purely I haven't the funds.my recovery test will be when l have funds

Hi mate,

You'll find plenty of people here who can empathize with not being able to gamble purely because there is no money left to gamble. Getting through those early days is tough more because you haven't got the money and you have to try and make sense of the losses. We can't change the past, just make the right decisions to start working for a better future.

All the best

Ryan

Five days into recovery feeling a little upbeat,sleeped the whole night without waking, normally my mind races after big gambling losses, now five days in I'm coming to terms with with it. And I hate it. I never want that feeling no more, I've experienced it far too many times, no more sleepless nights mentally torturing my self over my stupid, selfish, irresponsible, gambling problem here's looking forward to day 6.!!!gingernut

Hi ginger,

Well done on 5 days, each day you abstain you win, and you get stronger and more determined to not go back down that dark road that only brings total misery.

Keep going one day at a time,

Suzanne xx

Hi gingernut,

Well done on staying strong, and glad you're able to find some rest. The guilt of gambling losses is a big stress factor, so the longer you go without gambling, the less that particular trigger for insomnia shows its head. At times, it feels like I find other things to worry about as I'm still not very good at sleeping well, but it does get better. Keep making the right choices.

Ryan

Got to stop thinking about losses and move on, going to be tough financially for the next couple of weeks, but get through that and I'll be pleased with myself. We all know how tough it is to work after big losses I know it's self inflicted so I need to put my head down and get on with it.I feel confident about seeing the week out bet free.thanks forum.--gingernut

Gingernut

fella don't let addiction beat you up to much,the feeling of continued loss is addiction trying to tell you that you are wasting your time abstaining because 'nothing changes'

My friend the changes will come from every angle in your life,my advice embrace the good things.

I lived my life for twenty years with a half empty glass,my entire gambling life win or lose was not good enough,the money lost or more truthfully wasted was just the fuel that fed my relentless pursuit of the next punt,the self loathing,the sleepless nights,the lack of self esteem and the eventual suicidal thoughts were all living with active gambling.

Yes there will still be S***e in your life,there will be days where the world it will seem is against you,but fella without placing that next bet you can face whatever life throws your way.

Fill up your glass today you are a winner!!!

When those funds hit your pocket,enjoy them,don't throw yourself back into the hands of misery,because that will be the result of placing that next punt.

Be proud,enjoy it,you are doing something pretty amazing.

Abstain and maintain

Duncs stepping forward never back

Hi DUNCS many thanks for your comments you really are a wise old owl when it comes to coping with this addiction you sum up so well and I promise I take it all on-board. I recite your mantra every time I feel the gambling urge abstain and maintain 3 words that say it all. Thanks again Ginger

Over a week into recovery the way I feel today compared to this time last week is amazing, I can only put that down to this forum. i have tried so many times over the years and found it so difficult to stay focused on abstinence. But with so many like minded people sharing their gambling experiences it pushes me on forward never back as duncs would say. Gamble free day today,