One day at a time

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi there,

I'm currently on day 5 of my gamble free life.

10 months ago I went to Ascot races on a stag do, I got drunk, and emptied my savings and bank account.

Since then I've chased losses, worked hard, and had a constant battle.

This weekend it caught up with me, my partner of 4 years left me. Says we've fallen out of love. I know it's down the the gambling. Constantly being closed up and hiding my struggles, lacking the openess and intimacy that a relationship needs.

I have vowed for the final time to give up. I hate it for what its caused. I have self excluded from every single online site. Come clean to my parents at exactly what I have in my account and savings, so I know it can't drop again it can only go up. I'm going to get self exclusion forms from highstreet bookmakers that I used to go in. I really don't feel I need them right now as I'm so focused and determined, but going to have the extra safety net.

I'm going to post on here to keep me going.

Can't wait to hit the goals of 10 days, 50 days, 100 days, I know I will succeed this time.

Thanks for reading.

 
Posted : 6th June 2016 11:09 am
SwordFish
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Well done mate for taking this step. Are you aware of multi-operator self exclusion? I think it saves going in bookmakers to pick up a form. There is a number you can ring. If you ring gamcare they can offer you councilling and advice on self exclusion and blockers for phones and tablets and computers. I'm very sorry to hear about your partner. There is lots of great people on this site and lots of diaries you can read and relate to. Stay close to this place! It's saving me! It will save you! Stay strong mate

Gaz

 
Posted : 6th June 2016 11:30 am
cardhue
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Hi Andrew

How did it go with telling the parents?

You've taken great strides already. Be proud.

Louis

 
Posted : 6th June 2016 11:36 am
(@Anonymous)
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Hi Gaz, that is a great shout, I was dreading having to enter the bookies to exclude, thought there must be an easier way. 100% I'll be phoning and get bans sorted. Thanks !

Louis, thanks for your support. It was really tough, I'm not great with words as it is, getting them out was bloody hard ha ! But they weren't angry, obviously disapponted but very supportive and just more pleased its out in the open and no more scratching their heads thinking why am I depressed ! So nice to have a clear conscience, just gutted I didn't do it a lot sooner, but too late to worry about that.

Keep up the good work lads, lets do this !

 
Posted : 6th June 2016 1:23 pm
ben7006151872
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Hi andrew,

well done on 5 days mate, take 1 day at a time and keep chalking them days off. i am currently on day 15 and already i feel better inmyself.

good luck with the recovery mate

ben

 
Posted : 6th June 2016 1:29 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Today is a week ! it's sounds so small and in significant but I'm so pleased. Not only at no bets, but not a thought about a bet, I'm not using willpower, cause willpower means I'm depriving myself of betting. I'm not deprived, theres no pleasure to be had with betting, I'm free, and feel fantastic. Can't wait to hit bigger milestones, I know this time it's going to happen !!

Thanks for reading and good luck, we can beat this together 🙂

 
Posted : 8th June 2016 8:38 am
(@Anonymous)
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So today is Day 10 !

First time in a long time ive done double digits.

Suffering with some fairly strong urges today, a very quiet Saturday in store for me, Wales + England games tonight. But I know how much it means to everyone for me to beat this, and keeping my no gambling streak going by far outweighs any amount I could win on the football. Got some studying to do and going to go for a jog to keep busy. Then try and cheer Wales and England to victory without thinking I shouldve had them in a big double ! It's hard when your so used to backing your teams, but I'm so determined to beat this, and I know in the long run I'm so much better off walking away free from the trap that is gambling.

Have a good day everyone !

 
Posted : 11th June 2016 10:36 am
(@Anonymous)
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Hi Andy , well done on reaching double figures my friend , use it as a platform to push on from , 2 weeks then a month are really not that far away , enjoy the footy for the spectacle it is buddy !

Have a great weekend .

Best wishes .............Alan

 
Posted : 11th June 2016 11:41 am
(@Anonymous)
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Pleased I'm making it to day 11 gamble free but bloody hard to not feel £300-400 out of pocket on the easy England-Wales double 🙁

But I cheered them on for what it is only, eventually it'll feel easier I'm sure !

 
Posted : 11th June 2016 8:45 pm
(@Anonymous)
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See now my country have conceded and I'm kinda relieved as I thought I was missing out on money ! Crazy isn't it, I'll get over it in time, bring on day 11 !

 
Posted : 11th June 2016 8:47 pm
Oldhamktf
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Let's be honeat if that easy peasy lemon squeezey double had come in what would you have done with the winnings? I might be wrong but I'd imagine it would be another double tomorrow

KTF

 
Posted : 11th June 2016 9:36 pm
(@Anonymous)
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100% mate !!! So glad I stayed gamble free, onwards and upwards !

 
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