Out of the shadows

Big respect for the share mate

Louis

Guy's thanks for all the replys it means a lot

I feels good to have shared it
Although part's were outside my comfort zone
Have a great weekend all
Deano x

Who the f**k's D2410 ? I thought a new model of "Terminator " had just arrived from 2317 ?.

Seriously mate Your biggest issue's you bleedin identity :)) .

Thank's for the post Deeeeeeno , as I just said to Martin were off Monday morning so I'll probably have a bit of reflection tommorow night if the time allows, don't know where the day goes to be honest and I really struggle to understand how I ever had the time to gamble like I did , but I suppose gambling took priority with everything else fitted in around it .

Part of the speech consists of me reflecting on the test's I'd set my new son in law but him not realising I'd set them ? and thinking of suprising him by saying he has one last test of his courage by picking up a knife from the table and asking him to seal our bond the Italian way , by drawing blood ? , Well when in Soprano country eh ? :)) .

Hope your keeping your P****r up mate after your post the other day , it took some courage to share something like that and I hope in time you can banish some demon's coz you really owe it to yourself to move on to a better place :)).

Right , a bit more packing before bedtime and another long day tommorow .

Stay safe big D and have a great weekend .

Love to you and yours

AL xx

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Pull the last post m8. I sympathise i really do but your just giving him what he wants. You get moderated he rubs his hands in glee. Youre hurting not him but you & the people you help on here

Blimey oldhams quoted it now! So you both need to delete it

I get where your coming from but what youre doing is futile. Youre fighting the wrong way. Being abusive will achieve nothing. Words cant hurt him. Turning the other cheek will

Hello Dean,

Its been a while. Your a good guy and give alot to this forum.

I'm going with Dan and Martin, maybe time to starve that particular diary of oxygen and take the high road.

Your energy is more beneficial else where.

Good luck.

This was posted by admin earlier. Worth considering. I have sent an e mail already.

If you have comments to make about the way another forum user operates on the forum, or the way the forum is moderated, please email forumadmin@gamcare.org.uk

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Your posts absolutely do have a place on this forum & today's drama is no different to the stuff that has gone on before with his attention seeking so please, drive on by the car crash that is his diary & don't allow thousands of other forum members to suffer because of him!

Morning, Deano,

Sorry not a cushioned post but I would advise you to keep the focus on you and your issues and recovery, without being distracted by anyone else. It seems to be a bad idea for you get angry and then moderated in the way you expect, then you "have" to leave the forum without it being your fault because it's the other user's fault, then the path is clearer for you to regress without anyone commenting.

You did mention "shandy" betting on another thread. GA experience is that one bet leads to the next, that the bets increase in size and frequency and the compulsion takes over. Hence the advice to abstain altogether and the key question is why you need the shandy bet.

None of this is posted in bad faith, even if it's not what you want to read.

BW,

CW

Cw I appreciate the post. I would of answered it on the other post but when the opinion is split I didn't want it to seem like I was saying it was a good thing to do
Because it's not. It's sticking a band aide on what needs stitches.
I know it's not going to help me or is it a cure to my problems.
But it's what I'm happy with doing
Complete abstinence just isn't something I want now.
I just want to be happy.
As I explained to the guy's on Facebook. Since I tried to stop all together outside of my family life I was just working. I stopped seeing freinds because events where gambaling related.
Or other family get togethers where at the dogs or horse's
I have become a recluse
I enjoy going to the pub with my mate's on a Saturday.
Before Saturday just gone the last time I went was November.
This will probably make no sense to anyone but me.

Ok, really not going to make myself popular....It's entirely your business what you do or don't do but life and social life exist outside gambling; it sounds like it would involve a serious change to become part of a non gambling social life but it would be doable, if you wanted to. It's a whole lot harder to stop when you put or keep yourself in a culture of gambling. Friends tend to be like minded people and if your friends and family gamble, it's harder for you not to. Better to meet friends over coffee or a beer rather than in the bookies. GA is one way of getting into a non gambling culture.

The so called shandy bets aren't harmless, they feed the addiction.

CW

I think I can understand what you mean deanooos
You're not saying your defo going to go to the bookies/races/dogs for the sole purpose of a gambling hinge
You're saying your going to those places because it's a place to meet with friends and family...and that's what you miss...the social side off it ?
If you decide to have a small bet on these occasions....is that right or wrong....your shout deanooos....I think socializing is a buzz in its self....your bright enough to see if the P**P starts heading towards the fan...x